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Just Said Yes April 2025

Where to Have Wedding? Local v. Destination

finallyforever24, on April 21, 2024 at 1:11 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

We're getting married in a little less than a year so even though I just got engaged I'm trying to figure a few things out ASAP. Especially, because my life is already super busy. So we've got two options for where we could have our wedding: the city where we live or a destination wedding in Greece. Our friends and family are pretty spread out and travel will be involved no matter what. However, most of our friends travel a lot because of our industry. I'd say all of our friends have gone to at least one destination wedding. So while I think we'd have fewer guests than if it were local, I still think a decent amount would go.

Most of my family live in the town that I'm from that's 6 hours away. My fiance's family and most of his friends live in the city where we live. Most of my friends live in a different state on the opposite side of the country. So again, travel will be required no matter what lol.

We love the city where we live and it's special to us. However, Greece has always been a special place for us. We first said I love you in Greece and then later got engaged in Greece. We've been there 4 times now over the years and every trip has been amazing and special to us in one way or another. I know the cost would be a factor, but we would probably pay for our guests' accommodations. Logistically, though, having a local wedding would be much easier. My fiance has the same thoughts as me. It would be amazing to get married in Greece, but it would be easier to do it in our city. Maybe we could somehow do both? What are your thoughts?

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Latest activity by Cece, on April 25, 2024 at 4:58 PM
  • Cece
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    Maybe host a local wedding then honeymoon in Greece?
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  • Cece
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    Cece ·
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    Also, you could elope in Greece (just the two of you) or have a microwedding (just parents and siblings, maybe wedding party), and live stream the ceremony for everyone back home. Then you could host a local reception when you returned.
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    A destination wedding is one where travel is required for everyone, including the couple and both families. So, by definition not everyone will have to travel if it's local to you or your family. I know a lot of people who are willing to travel for a wedding that is local to you or your parents because that makes sense, but not so much for the sole purpose of an exotic venue.

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  • Michelle
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    That’s something you have to ask your VIP guests. We can’t answer for you if your loved ones are able or willing to travel to a destination wedding vs domestic. You can’t spend someone else’s money and time by deciding that they will absolutely attend because they frequently travel anyway or they make a certain income. You don’t know the ins and outs of their priorities or finances and what PTO they have to work with, if any.


    For most people, it’s normal and expected to travel domestically for a wedding regardless of where in the US they are located. It’s pretty rare to not travel for loved ones. The adage is 100% true that those who want to attend will find a way. That is why save the dates are sent via phone call, word of mouth and magnets at 6-12 months before the wedding so that they have time to make travel arrangements and free their calendar.
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    You said it, people who want to be there for a loved one’s wedding will often find a way. To that I’d add “no matter how burdensome the request may be.” IMO the onus is on the couple to be as reasonable as possible, including on behalf of VIP guests unless they have been integrally involved in the planning.


    It’s not true at all that it’s expected that one’s guests travel domestically. What’s feasible for one person may not be tenable for another regardless of relationship.
    OP, Traveling for business, because you have to, is one thing. Taking off days for your idea of a vacation for them is another.
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    Just Said Yes April 2025
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    In case anyone wants to know or reads this later, we've tentatively decided to do two ceremonies—a wedding in our home city and then a "wedding"/vow renewal in Greece on our anniversary since it's close to our wedding date. The one in Greece will probably just be us in a small chapel. It will be more of a religious ceremony than our legal wedding in our home city. We'll invite family and close friends if they want to go, but it's special for us to say our personal vows in Greece. We'll probably just say the required vows in our legal ceremony.

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  • Cece
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    That sounds like a fantastic plan! So glad you and your spouse will get to take vows in such a meaningful place to you đź’•
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