When to change name on social media?

Surely if you posted a 'life event' of 'got married' on facebook, it would use your original name.

Then, you could go to settings and update your name once people have congratulated you. It will be obvious who you are because presumably they will see your profile picture and recognise you, but also if they click into your profile they'll be able to see more pictures and figure it out. Added to that, aren't most of the people who you would have on facebook be your friends or family, or other people likely to have been guests at the wedding? What I'm basically saying is that I think people are going to be able to figure it out from the contextual information provided.

You did say you would use the married name socially, and the reasons you provide for not doing so are kind of weak, but I'm firmly of the opinion that it's your name, and you should totally use whatever you want, whether it's maiden name, married name or the double-barrelled one.

You can put whatever name you choose. Facebook has an option to put a nickname, which used to look like this: FirstName SocialName (MaidenName). So you could put whatever you choose. Example: Elizabeth Swan from Pirates of the Carribean - Elizabeth Turner (Swan).

My current last name is becoming my second middle name tomorrow. It is my son's last name and my deceased best friend's last name, so I am carrying it with me always. And there is nothing my ex husband can say about it. It is my choice, my name. My hubby to be is okay with it.

You worked for that professional title. You have a right to keep and use whatever name you choose!

In that case, yes that does seem like a weird distinction for him to insist on. I'd change it after, and use maiden name before that. I wouldn't leave long between the two actions though - life event and then maybe later that same evening or the day after for the name change. Double-barrelling the name only to change it seems like it would just cause more confusion.

My mom did this as well. Legally her name is her married name but she wanted high school friends to recognize her on social media.

He has no reason to be upset about this. It's your name, not his.

I changed my last name to my husbands last name on facebook the next day I believe. Even before it was legally done. My friends on social media still can find me, that change didn't make it hard at all. Why wouldn't people recognize who you are if you changed your name?

You can do whatever you want, but I will say it seems quite common to me to have both maiden and married names on social media. I always do a double take when someone changes their last name to just their married one like "who is this person, do I even know them??" before I realize/remember they got married and changed it

****% THIS I have a bunch of friends that I forget who they are when they change their name to First Married instead of First Maiden Married. Honestly I love the F M M much more. Its easier for everyone.

Plus if anyone tries to look you up by your maiden on social media it wont come up.

I kept my ex husband's name (who I have two children with) and hyphenated it with my current husband's name. I've been Ms. W since 2005 and just can't see myself changing that for anything, all my degrees and references etc are Ms. W. I go by Ms. W professionally and Mrs. K socially. Just to let you know it's been a royal pain in the rear end and I wish I had just stuck to being Ms. W. No one knows what to call me and using the two names together is awkward.

But being said, I changed everything to Mrs. K the night of our wedding when I announced our marriage. People figured out it was me eventually.