When did you realise you were in love with your now-fiance/ee?

When we were taking our first road trip together and he pulled over so I could use the bathroom without complaint, even though it was fairly frequent. I had dated so many guys who made a big deal out of the fact that we were "losing time" on the trip because I had to use the restroom on our way to the location and H just pulled over. (I will say, he was a bit weird about it the first time, because it hadn't been long, but then we ended up in the middle of the Mississippi Delta, with no public restrooms and I was like, aren't you glad I went when I did, and he was "yeah, yeah" - but he has *never* complained again - and now he mentions when we're coming up on rest areas and checks to see if I need to go). It's weird, I know - it's such a little thing, and yet it meant (and means) so much.

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Awww, that is really sweet! I know exactly what you mean - it's like they see and accept this quirk about you, when so many others didn't! That's lovely.

I was in a pretty rough period of my life when my now-husband came into it. I was living life day by day, everything felt gray. But a few days after we met, I was texting him from the porch of my apartment and I noticed a storm rolling in and I swear it was the first time in three years I "saw" things in color again.


It sounds *so* corny, and a relationship should not and never will be a solution to depression, but I happened to find the right person at the right time who genuinely wanted to hang out with me. He's my absolute best friend.

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Nawww, my heart! That's beautiful! I'm so happy for you!

So I have known my fiancé 12 1/2 years. We were really good friends for the first 4 1/2 years we knew each other and then when he came home from college our first year we spent the first two weeks that he was home together just about every day. Then I got asked out on a 2nd date by somebody I went to college with and I went and realized the entire time I wished I was with my now fiancé and not the guy I was on a date with. So I told him over text but I was really nervous I would ruin our really good friendship so I didn’t text him for the rest of the day which I feel bad about because I dropped a huge bomb on him . But we got together the next day and talked about it and he told me he felt the same and we decided to break it off with the people we were seeing and start seeing each other. That was almost 8 years ago 🥰

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Awwww! sweet. I do think sometimes being shown how different something is to what you could have is all it takes!

Funnily enough, I follow a wedding photographer on instagram and was a bit surprised a few months ago when one of my high school exes showed up on it - in his own wedding photos! I hadn't thought about him for years and years, but looking at them reminded me of that time and made me so very, very grateful that I ended up with someone who is so much of a better match for me. Hopefully he did too.

My Fuance works in television but he is also a talented artist. The first time I saw one of his pieces he did of his daughters I knew that was a man I could love. He captured every single detail of them. Then he did one of me and I was sold.

We met online and he messaged me first in between Christmas and New Years. We had a pretty good conversation going until he suddenly ghosted me and I assumed he didn't want to talk anymore. I knew I felt some sort of way about him because after less than a week of talking I was spending New Years Eve with another guy I had been kind of seeing and I couldn't stop thinking about him. I considered messaging him again but figured there was no use. It turns out he didn't realize he never responded and thought I had ghosted him. He ended up messaging me a few days later and we decided to meet up. We started officially dating January 23 after agreeing that neither of us was interested in a long term relationship and we would just enjoy each other's company for however long it worked out.

Fast forward to Valentine's Day, we went on a couple hour long road trip and spent the weekend snowed in a hotel room. The whole way there we were laughing and just really connecting and it suddenly hit me like a ton of bricks that I definitely loved him. I knew right then that either he was going to completely break me or this was going to be long term lol. He ended up telling me he loved me for the first time that night because the same thing pretty much happened to him on that ride as well.

SO mine is a bit of a weird story. I came out as homoflexible (mostly into women, but occasionally one or two guys would catch my eye) when I was 14, and I met my husband when I was 16 (he was 36 at the time) when I got a job at Michaels (I was in customer service, and he was a framer). I thought he was hot, but he was so much older than me that I didn't think anything of it. He got promoted to Replenishment Manager (basically in charge of inventory, stocking, resets, etc) at another location, and we lost touch.

When I was eighteen, the Assistant Manager at his store came to fill in at mine for a couple of months, and I went back to my college at the end of the summer. When I came back on a break later that semester, I went to my location to find out that the Assistant Manager had transferred me to her location. I ended up on Rob's replenishment team pretty quickly, and our friendship picked up right where it left off.

A few months after I was transferred, we were doing a MAJOR reset on the store, and ended up working 50 or so hours a week together. One night, I had a . . . dream . . . about him, and the next time I saw him I was super awkward and anxious because I hadn't ever actually felt that way about a guy.

Speed up to two years later, and I normally found myself googling things like "lesbian in love with male boss," "am I in love with my boss," etc., and I found myself more and more into Rob. In April of 2014 (we met in 2010), he broke up with his girlfriend/daughter's mother, and the moment I found out, I literally texted him, "You know, of the very few guys I would ever be into, you're, like, 100 percent of them." He was shocked, to say the least, as he'd always known me as gay.

. . . eight years later we are married and going to start trying to get pregnant soon.

We were just friends initially and i remember asking him why did he decide to be a counselor?

he said well i wanted to be a lawyer but in the end i didn't feel it really matched up with who i wanted to be

and in that moment i just knew because he's kind, thoughtful, compassionate... all the things that would make for a good counselor. and all the things that i knew in that moment... were what i was in love with him for

We actually met on Tinder. I wasn't really looking for a relationship, just someone to hang out with. On our fourth date he took me wine tasting in Sonoita, AZ and we had an AMAZING time, laughing, talking, holding hands. I then found out that he had learned how to make Tri Tip ( I'm from California and its just not something you see in AZ) since I had said how much I missed it. He had it waiting at his house for dinner for us.

I sat on the steps of a winery thinking "this is either going to be the best thing that's ever happened to me or completely destroy me. "

My FH says he knew the moment he saw me that I was 'the one'. For me, I wouldn't say it was love at first sight - although I did realize that he was something special. The moment I knew is when he went out of town for the weekend a few months after we had been dating and I MISSED him. I've always been this independent, do it yourself woman and I found myself genuinely missing his company and conversation. This week will be the longest time we've spent apart in the 2 years we've been together and I feel all kinds of weird about it. Hopefully the bachelorette party is a big enough distraction.

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Aww, he really did! Beautiful, I love the light!

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Awwww, how cute! Thank goodness he reached out! A sliding doors moment for sure!

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Ohhh dreams like that are super weird, aren't they! I tried very hard to talk myself out of even going on a date with my now-fiance, no joke! I'd basically had the worst run with awful dates, and was looking SO hard for red flags, haha! So thankful I gave it a chance!

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Aww, that is really sweet. Perfect ingredients for a counselor, and for a partner for sure!

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Well that sounds romantic as all get-out. I don't think we get tri-tip here, but I googled it and it had my mouth watering, that's for sure! You've definitely got yourself a keeper!

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Awww, I know what you mean! I even miss my partner's snoring and can't easily sleep without it/him!

Enjoy your bachelorette party - do you know what's planned, or is it a surprise?

I don't know that there was a defining moment or event where I went from being like "I like him" to "I'm in love with him", but over time I began to realize that he just felt like home to me, and I couldn't imagine my life without him.

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Argh so sweet! I know that feeling!