Wedding Website: i don’t know if i want one or not

I was on the fence about using a wedding website myself. I had 2 wedding invites in the past few years that used websites and this was my first interaction with them. It can eliminate the need for paper invitations if all your guests are super tech savvy. I am choosing to do both. The online rsvp is what makes it worth it to me to give guests the option of rsvping through the website where it will track the yes and no for me.

For me I like the ability to easily access hotel information when there’s a wedding website, as well as the registry. That and if there’s extra events like a welcome party, after party, or day after brunch then it’s nice to see all that in one place too. It’s definitely not necessary, you could technically put all that info on a detail card but that’s extra money whereas the website is free

(For the record - we’re doing paper invites as well)

View Quoted Comment That’s kinda a struggle, most of my guests are at least somewhat tech savvy. The older folks, not so much. I feel like I should at least do part of it on paper for them. Maybe the invitations? Most of my guests are in their hometown or home state at the very least. My FH and I are actually the furthest guests away from the wedding. Thanks for the help.

If most of your guests are local and there are no hotel blocks or other parties, I don't think it's necessary. However, online RSVPs are a modern way to save that money! As a guest, I'd rather get a QR code than find a post office box to mail an envelope. Ps. websites are often free.

If your spouse is tech savvy, maybe you two would be interested in designing your own invites. I hear Canva is popular.

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I am doing this!

For the younger more savvy folks, I am doing digital. But there are specific ones I am doing paper invites. This help cut down the cost. I now only need to order 25 paper invites instead of over 100.

View Quoted Comment I am going to design my own paper invites! I am about to have a degree in communications with a concentration in graphic communication. I am all for creating my own (one of my few DIY projects).


I’ll definitely look into QR codes for RSVP! They sound to be simple and easier than doing another paper invite. Thanks for the advice.

I was also unsure about creating a website or not, especially since we are having a small wedding, but I decided to just make one. I felt that it was able to hold alot of information, especially a Q&A page so that people could check there for information before reaching out. I personally would do that over contacting a couple haha.

I’m having g a destination wedding, so the website was pretty much a must. But if your wedding is local and there aren’t as many details, it’s probably not necessary. I will say that all the weddings I’ve been to recently have had one, and I’ve really enjoyed clicking through them. I also had a blast putting together mine and FH’s. I will say that I’ve had a lot of my guests compliment our website and say they’ve been looking through it…and then they ask something that’s prominently featured on the site lol. So we wanted a paper suite anyway, but we’re also making sure to put the major points on a details card since a lot of our guests have not had great reading comprehension on the website lol.

I can't recommend a wedding website highly enough, only because it will save you both soooo much hassle! It gives everyone one place to go to find the information they need, so that they're not blowing up your phone with questions. It's also a streamlined system where you can handle guest list, invitations, RSVPs, etc all from there yourself. It's meant to make your life tons easier, since wedding planning is already stressful enough! Personally, I don't think paper invites are absolutely necessary in this digital age, and I don't know anyone who'd be offended by e-invite only. Good luck!

So I made the wedding website through WeddingWire and because we’re doing digital invitations it makes it easier for everyone to go in an RSVP and I can review them and we’re not wasting posted you’re having to waste paper. It’s very eco-friendly, if that matters to you.

As a guest in the past, I found them helpful, I'd forget something and would be able to reference the information without bothering the bride and groom.

As a Matron of Honor, I found it also to be helpful when providing info to colleagues for a company bridal party.

As a bride, I found it easy to create one on this website, while I am tech savvy, they made it simple and painless, I didn't have to put much thought into it. 52% of attendees are from out of state, I did also send a paper invite, but the site gives them a peek into what is going on and I'll also be posting images for those that cannot make it. I have 9 family members who are not able to make it from out of state and providing a link to a site with pictures lets them feel included despite the distance, 4 of those are not very tech savvy and if they opt to, they still have a chance to view the site with other family members nearby.

I'd say weigh your options, see if it's worth your time and energy. See if the privacy settings are to your liking as well.

We debated and then made a super simple one even though no one looked at it. In our social circles, while people are very tech savvy, they don’t do wedding websites for any reason, nor anything else tech related. Online rsvps, online registries and QR codes go completely ignored. Word of mouth in person or over the phone and full set paper invites are how information is relayed and no one has issues with it. They prefer the old school method. Even those who are out of state. Contrary to what the internet in general believes, it’s not disrespectful. Even with a website that didn’t have any views, guests still had all the correct information, they were able to follow etiquette for the social circle along with our personal preferences, locate registries, rsvp and show up where they were supposed to go with zero issues. Only one other person in our social circle, a close friend of mine, made a website on Zola for her wedding 2 years ago and her guests didn’t read it either, they didn’t use the online rsvp, nor did they use the online registry. She had enough problems with the customer service regarding the registry who refused to resolve anything, that she said if she had it to do over, she would not spend 5 minutes putting a website together.


On the flip side, we attended weddings for close coworkers where everything was digital. Save the dates, invitations, rsvps, etc, and hardly anyone showed up because they said later that they were expecting paper invitations and rsvps to follow the digital save the dates so they didn’t take it seriously. Yet the internet as a whole says that situation never occurs. So take that as you will and do what works for you and your guests, not what people who don’t affect you insist on.