Wedding Night Anticipation!

Honestly, I'm sure we will both be so exhausted, and probably drunk, on the wedding night that we'll pass out and sleep like rocks.

The next few days after that though...

Yes!!! My fiance and I are waiting too and we're both so excited!!!! It kind of sucks right now, but it'll be worth it.

Also, I hope this isn't getting too personal but is it the first time for both of you?

If it is, just remember that this is only the beginning. You both may be overwhelmed at first but keep at it and don't forget to talk to each other. Don't be afraid to suggest things. Be open with one another.

I'm ridiculously excited. I'm so excited it makes no sense. LOL only thing is I drink and he doesn't so he will have to bear with me LOL

Are you both actually virgins, or you just haven't had sex with each other?

I'm gonna be real with you- waiting until your wedding night is probably going to leave you disappointed. Even if you do manage to get it on, (which you probably won't since you have NO idea how exhausted you'll be), it's going to be over in approximately 2 minutes, if that, especially if he's a virgin. Your first time is not at all like it is in the movies, and I just don't want you to have false expectations of this beautiful moment. Bumpy and awkward is more like it.

I didn't have sex with my ex husband on our wedding night. I wouldn't get too invested because you may be too tired or drunk. Not to mention, the first time is never all that great.

Personally... I think sexual compatibility is too big a thing to leave as a wild card. I think that knowing yourself and what you like as well as knowing your partner is into similar things as well as frequency etc is too large a part of what makes a relationship work to wait. I would not marry someone I was not sexually compatible with. However, I'm not religious, so you need to do what works for you.

I'm certainly looking forward to the honeymoon when we have a few days of no responsibilities and we can just sleep and eat and talk and have lots and lots of loud kinky sex without worrying about small ears!

I agree with others that sex on the actual night may be disappointing. Wedding days are super long, especially for the couple, and if you plan on drinking, exhaustion and drunk bodies aren’t a winning combination for meaningful sex. The day after is a different story though. Remember to be gentle and it may be awkward the first few times. Don’t put too much stock in the idea; just let things happen organically. Good luck!

Thank y’all for the advice! 😊💕 Oh yeah, honestly, neither of us have unrealistic expectations. It doesn’t even matter what it’s like! We’re just excited to be alone together.

I agree with the others about not getting your hopes up for the actual wedding night. Not only do you have to overcome figuring each other out for the first time, but you will probably be very exhausted. Our hotel gave us their $1,000/night honeymoon suite. . .and we didn't get to "enjoy" it because we were so exhausted. Don't be disappointed if that happens - it is very common!

My now husband and I got married a couple weeks ago. We also had a private wedding so we weren't exhausted from the day. We waited until the wedding night to have sex and honestly it was a disappointment. I was in a good deal of pain. It took about 4 nights of trying to get somewhere, but it still wasn't very enjoyable for me. I am very proud you two are waiting and hope you enjoy your wedding night, but I would definirely have low expectations and then that leaves room to be pleasantly surprised.

View Quoted Comment So glad to know I’m not the only one!! It will definitely be worth it. It’s not even about what it’s like, it’s just being together, ya know?! 😊

Yeah just remember to be patient & open with each other, especially since it might not even happen that night. In my experience the first few times with any partner isn't usually that fantastic anyway until you can get down each other's rhythms and preferences. The best thing you can do for each other long term is to learn how to talk very comfortably about what is/isn't working for you. Be prepared to deal with what a lot of us got years ago with our teenage boyfriends/girlfriends- some awkward groping "foreplay", 5 minutes of panting, and then a "That was it?" moment when you're finally getting into it. You have the opportunity to learn and experiment together though, so take advantage of it. Just take it slowly and be prepared for the first few times to be potentially awkward and possibly even uncomfortable/painful.

Yikes....good luck.

View Quoted Comment Same here!!! Lol

If this helps, it took FH and I years for sex to be great. We were/are young and it took some work to just figure it all out. Now it's amazing. It will probably be weird at first because you've built up this vision in your head, and it more than likely won't be like that. A lot of times for women, the first time is uncomfortable. just be open to everything and don't try to build it up in your mind too much.

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^^This^^

Try not to build it up too much in your head and don't be disappointed if it doesn't happen that night. The first time is special, don't get me wrong. It's amazing to be able to express love in that way, but like anything else in a relationship it takes time and practice. Sex was always fun and good when FH and I first started, but after 5 years of being together it's amazing! That just comes from practice, knowing each other, and being super comfortable together.

Only reiterating what others have said—it’s goihg to be like “that’s it”? It gets better as you get better and get to know each other in that way!

H and I drunkenly stumbled home after our afterparty and still managed to get it on so I wouldn’t entirely disregard it happening the night of. But also, I slept with him the night we met so it wasn’t that unusual. I agree with PP sexual comparability is too big of an issue for me to leave to chance. My first time was so uneventful “......um i could have done a better job at that myself.” But since we’re here, I’d agree with PPs. Don’t get your hopes up, take it slow, and if it’s not working, try again the next night. It will take some time but hopefully, the two of you will get into a rhythm and start figuring out what works best for you guys. Also be open with each other. It might be awkward at first but it’s so much easier for men, your FH may need a little direction on what to hit.

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View Quoted Comment What you said!!! 😂 😉 haha