Wedding day NOT the “best day of your life”??

Ha, it definitely wasn't the best day of my life. But, it was a good party after 5 months of indescribable anxiety. I'm on WW more after to understand it all. I am fortunate to have a lot of special days in my life though. But, perhaps a bit different for my partner as he was a groom-zilla.

I do think the industry does make money on wedding expectations. Like why would we buy new shoes, new jewelry, rent a Rolls Royce, etc.? Are we supposed to feel the most special and most beautiful in our lives on this day? Are we queens deserving of ladies in waiting? Chile, I was bloated, sleepless, and my husband popped a new pimple on my chest right before our pictures. Ah well, to the rest of our lives.

Yeah, not at all. I expect that it will be fun and a good party, but getting engaged was by far the best day of my life this far. I don't think anything will top that until I have kids.

The day we actually got married was very mundane. Signing a paper isnt all that exciting lol. I think the wedding will be a fun party though.

I certainly didn't. I expected to have fun, eat good food, celebrate with friends and family, and (most importantly) get married. All of those expectations were met and we had a beautiful, wonderful, day. Since then, we've had many wonderful days/events/occurrences that have brought us joy and make us smile to look back at. To my mind, it's about a lifetime of memories rather than one "best" day.

Nope. Honestly I just really hope that it all starts to feel real and not like I'm making this up in some kind of delusional dream. That, and that my anxiety doesnt get the better of me on the day. I just want to relax, have fun, and marry my person.

I feel the same way! I mean, it'll be my wedding day and I'm super excited but at the same time, it's just another Saturday. There's just a fun party attached!

Everyone pushes the "it's your day" stuff and I can how it breeds perfection. I'm trying to make a mantra of "perspective" every time I get a vendor quote or look at Etsy and Pinterest because at the end of the day, it's literally one day. Things will go wrong, people will show up or not show up, I'll forget something, the weather will be crazy and on and on. The end result is the best part... being married to a cool guy that I can't wait to continuing living life with!

I could not agree more. In reality, you're holding a huge event with the responsibility of hosting guests well. Simultaneously, you're supposed to look better than you've ever looked before and to stay the way all day. The amount of pressure on one day is insane. Social media influences have driven this industry to extreme lengths, and I think some couples get detached from what's realistic.

I'm much more excited about life with my partner afterwards than the wedding itself c:

I felt the same! I think that's why I was so laid back. There were no major set backs and I got to marry the love of my life after 8 years together and have fun. That's what I expected the day to be so there wasn't anything to be disappointed by! I never expected anything more. I was told I should cry when I decided on my wedding dress...I did not lol

My friend quite literally walked down the isle in her nightgown due to an unforeseen disaster. She still says it was the best day of her life!

Sure. The couple really need to have that attitude going into the wedding ceremony. But we so often try to make this the best party too. Remember though that people that are upset how their wedding went are not likely to be happy when people around them are saying to rejoice that they got married and now are a couple. There also are the situations where people really have a disaster -- such as a sudden or recent death of a loved one. Short of such terrible happenings, try to remember the best things about being married.