Wedding date too close to my Sil’s graduation date?

Three weeks is plenty! A college graduation usually take place over one or two days at most, including the various ceremonies. I don’t see why that would interfere with your plans or vice versa. It’s not a competition. People can be excited for more than one special occasion in the family.


The only reason I can think of to postpone is if the graduation and or the wedding involve travel/hotels etc. and would put a financial burden on you or immediate family in the same month.
How does prepping the week before the wedding concern her? Unless she’s volunteered certain tasks completely unsolicited, that’s your job. It would be inappropriate to assign anything. If she’s in the wedding party she might need to attend a rehearsal etc and of course be available on the day of to help with small things, but that’s all.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I agree. It’s more that we want her to feel like she has her own moment to shine. Some family members were suggesting that there should be a month between the two events so she doesn’t feel like she’s being over shadowed. She said she’s fine with it being two or three weeks apart but we were just hearing a lot of opinions even outside of her approval. I would plan to make sure that her wedding “duties” were super light so that she doesn’t feel overwhelmed in the slightest. Appreciate your answer!

I don’t see this being a cause for concern. A wedding is one 24 hour period to celebrate (unless you’re in a culture that has multi days back to back to celebrate) so that has zero bearing on an event earlier in the week or 3 weeks away. If someone doesn’t want to be there, they will not make any attempts to clear their calendar to make it work. A wedding will never overshadow a graduation and vice versa.

It would sometimes be best to have such events closer together if, for example, grandparents were traveling to the graduation too. Then they would only have one trip to make.