Ways to walk down the aisle - i would rather walk alone but fiancé wants to walk with his parents

Honestly, I don't see why you both can't do what you want. It's your wedding. If he wants to walk with both parents and you want to walk alone, then do that. If a guest doesn't like it or thinks it's weird, that's on them. And as fat as attention seeking....you're the bride. Everyone is literally there to celebrate the couple getting married.

View Quoted Comment Completely agree!

View Quoted Comment I just feel like I shouldn't. It's hard to describe. I feel like either way (with or without my parents) makes some kind of "statement" and I don't want that. I just want to walk from one place to the other with some nice photos along the way. I've already been called a bridezilla so many times and I feel like walking alone will just reinforce that. I don't know what to do.

View Quoted Comment If you decided that all guests need to stand the entire ceremony or something, then sure, that's venturing into bridezilla territory. If the decision is something that only impacts you, then it's entirely your decision. If people have negative things to say, just don't talk to them about wedding planning. It sounds like whoever is talking to you like this won't be happy one way or the other. But they are free to do what they want at their wedding. Not dictate what you do at yours.

What does the rest of the procession look like? Weddings over seen, the groom walks down at the beginning of the procession either with our after the parents. Then come the best man, groomsmen and the bridesmaids, the MOH, and then lastly, the bride. So there's alot of time since the groom walked and the bride walking down is it's own thing... What I'm trying to say is that it doesn't matter that you do something different. Your parents can walk down the aisle first of you like or maybe after the MOH by themselves? I totally get it. I'm walking down by myself and not having my father walk me.

View Quoted Comment I think our officiant first (he's my brother-in-law), then three bridesmaids (our sisters), then groom and his parents. It's a Jewish wedding for the groom's side, so he doesn't go first in the traditional order.

View Quoted Comment If it's a traditional Jewish processional, the groom may not go first but he still goes before the bridesmaids and the flower girl/ring bearer, so there's still plenty of separation.


I'm Jewish and my husband is Catholic. He didn't want to walk down the aisle at all, so he didn't. I wanted both parents to walk me down, but my dad is disabled and had a particularly bad day that day so only my mom walked. Not a single person said anything regarding how unusual our ceremony was. Both sides were equally confused lol. Seriously, do whatever you want in this instance.

I understand the worry about what other people will think as I’m the same way but once you get over that everything seems easier. Walk alone! Who cares what “statement” that makes. I guarantee as a guest no one is even thinking about that. I’m walking myself!

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I'm not sure why anyone else's opinions should matter to you, including FH since he sounds like he feels so strongly that he won't change his mind, not even for you... so why would you care what he or his family think? Just do what you want, if that means walking yourself down the aisle, so be it.
You won't get arrested.
People tend to say bridezillas or groomzillas when they plan the wedding their way so being called bridezilla is not a big deal and you shouldn't care about this.I prefer 1000 times being called a bridezilla rather than doing something I don't want because "it's a tradition", X and Y think we need this and this or because we're not inviting the parents' friends,neighbors & coworkers we've never met or barely know.As long as you're happy with your plans: please throw other's unwanted opinions to the trash. You won't want them to tell you where you should live, pick the names of the future kids and so on, will you?

View Quoted Comment No one else has given their opinion about it. I haven't talked to anyone else about this. I don't think our parents would care either way. I just feel like I can't. I'm sorry I can't explain better.

Do I understand what you mean? YES... but...
You know what you want and know it won't make your marriage unvalid...

No one else would even care tou said: one more reason to do it your way.

Had you been torn on this,. it would have been another story but that's not the case.You said no one would care either way but in fact you do, even though you know they wouldn't even say anything about it, so stop agonizing over such a small thing that only lasts 30-40 seconds and move on with what you want, not what you think you should/shouldn't do.

No one will think this is unusual. No one will say you’re being a bridezilla. Totally fine to walk down with a different escort than your fiancé. I can’t imagine someone would call you attention seeking unless you came out with a megaphone yelling LOOK AT ME EVERYONE.

Honestly I prefer the bride walking alone but I understand the tradition of walking with parents. However your idea sounds perfect. Just for context I am walking solo on a stage across my parents pool. My dad will be meeting me at the end and will be standing there for about a minute or so. I think this could work for you too!

I love that you want to process by yourself. I say do what you want to do regardless of what your FH is doing. I can't imagine that anyone would think it's weird. Also, everyone's attention will be on you anyway! It's okay to be the center of attention, especially on your wedding day.

My FH will walk with his mother, to her seat front row shake hands with dad etc. Walk up to the altar. And my son will give me away.

View Quoted Comment Well, I finally decided to walk by myself and I sent the final plans to the DJ and the maitre d'. The wedding is in 12 days. And NOW my mom tells me she and my dad really want to walk with me 🤦🏼‍♀️ But I don't think it's possible at this point. We would have to change the song. So I'm just gonna tell her it's too late 😬

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Congrats! And don't worry, it's your wedding. Only your (and your partner's) opinion matters.

View Quoted Comment Hopefully. My FH's parents are walking him. So if mine don't also walk me, she says "the families will think we're estranged" and it will be embarrassing for them.