I was wondering if it would be too silly or confusing to have the officiant read generic vows out loud to people and have prerecorded personal vows that we could play via wireless earbud to each other during that time. So we could still say what we want to without the pressure to speak in front of others and we could still share that reaction with them. (more so with the photographer in the ceremony space ) I think it would be awkward to stand in silence if I gave him prerecorded vows to listen too. I wouldn't want to put it in with the first look because it feels like its the promise of marriage moment rather then your beautiful and I love seeing you.
Another idea would be for the officiant to read about the handfasting colors and meanings and doing the tieing but I think that might be confusing if one of us end up crying.
Have you had any neat ideas about how to do your vows?