Venting - wedding finances

I'd move forward with the assumption that he will not be contributing. It's unfortunate when he promised that he would but if you continue to wait, I foresee a lot of disappointment.

View Quoted Comment My wedding is March. He said February he’ll pay. I have everything paid for I hope. But it would’ve been a more smoother ride. Can I uninvite him lol

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I hear that! lol As much as I want to say yes, I wouldn't un-invite him. Maybe he'll surprise you and end up helping y'all out. You can only hope at this point Good luck on everything. I'm sure it will be beautiful!

I would say that ship has sailed. He's not going to give you the time of day. Move forward with paying it on your own dime and just thank those who helped at the reception.

I'm sorry you are going through this. It's incredibly rude of your father to offer to pay for things, then not follow through knowing you are planning on it. I would move forward trying to figure out how you can pay for it and not expecting him to, then if he does, it will be a nice surprise.

View Quoted Comment Lol so read off a list of people I give thanks to and leave him off? 😅 I have paid for everything but it was a tough 8 months

I'm so sorry that this is happening. He really shouldn't have promised to help you financially if he wasn't going to come through. My parents and mother-in-law helped, but my father-in-law didn't even once mention wanting to help so we had no expectations from him. It sounds like it would have been better if your dad just didn't say anything at all. I would move forward as if he never made that promise as difficult as that might be. I wouldn't uninvite him as that could cause more drama.

Wow! I feel your pain. I'm getting married in March and most of my final payments are in February. I can't imagine thinking I had a certain amount of money and then all of a sudden I didn't. I wouldn't be able to pay for it myself.

That sucks, I'm sorry you're going through it. Luckily you've got everything mostly paid for already, but what a bummer that he promised and then backed out. That's definitely stressful.

My mom hasn't helped with a single thing, in fact, she's done the opposite, so I'm wondering the same thing - how do I thank everyone else and then not thank her? LOL it will be very noticeable!

I'm glad your mom was able to help. Try focusing your thankfulness on her and her generosity and don't think about your dad any more. As another mentioned, he might surprise you later, but for now, pretend his offer never happened.

I completely understand this! My Mom said she would pay for my dress and I ended up being the one who paid for it, my parents offered to buy the little things such as plates, cups, silverware, ect. I ended up paying for it, my parents were also in charge of the chips, tortillas, and heat trays for the reception but of course the night before the wedding I'm making a trip to Walmart and $300 later all of my parents "to do" list was taken care of with my credit card... I was fully capable of paying for my wedding but my problem was I was unaware that I would be spending that amount the day before my wedding. I appreciated the offered help but could have saved a lot of stress knowing they had no intention of paying for it. I understand the frustration but I would just let it go

I would call him and explain that you're hurt and feel replaced. I would reiterate that you could pay for these things on your own ( and are) but you feel hurt that he isn't keeping his promise. If he tries to make excuses tell him you understand and that you understand where his priority is. If anything I would just tell him you are no longer interested in his contribution since you are already paying for it and will by the time the money is required. Maybe he will surprise you and gift it to you at the wedding. I wouldn't uninvite him though.