So in addition to all this uncertainty/insanity for summer 2020, my fiance and I still haven't actually planned a honeymoon. There have been multiple discussions about where we could go, and if we could afford it. My fiance would be paying for most of it, as my parents are paying for most of the reception costs and I'm paying for other vendors.
Here's the issue: he's not really at all interested in planning, even before the pandemic. He works full time, and also goes to grad school online part time (but his semester ends the first week of May), and when he's not doing that, he's working on things around the house.
We are now 3.5 months out from the wedding. I've emphasized how important going on a honeymoon is to him, and the timing of said honeymoon (we cannot go in the fall because he will be in his last semester of school), so that would leave August, right after the wedding, or January, over six months after, which doesn't sound like a honeymoon to me. I don't know obviously what will happen with this virus, and if it will get worse in the cooler months.
I'm hopeful that we could be able to have a wedding AND go on a trip (Hawaii, or somewhere in the Carribbean, although again idk what international travel restrictions would be like, plus it would be really hot there in August). I know an August destination to a tropical location is sort of limiting 
As much as I love the idea of Hawaii, I am open to somewhere else tropical if it is more budget-friendly and less devastating if we did have to cancel. I have talked to him about this. I know deep down he prefers January. Alot of my friends waited like 2-3 months after their weddings but six months seems insane to me.
This sounds nuts, but if we go in January, I don't want to have to hold my breath and pray I don't get pregnant until then, and then won't be able to go. We want a baby sometime in 2021, but if I don't have a honeymoon I'm afraid I will be resentful. (Did I mention I've never been ANYWHERE ever in my life?) I'm 35. This is my last shot before a baby to do anything fun; and as a couple we've NEVER been on a single vacation together, not even a semi-local beach. I've waited my whole life for these two moments - wedding and honeymoon - and I wanted to do them in the proper sequence. I've also waited for a baby as well - BUT i know once we have a child, things will get complicated, exhausting, and expensive.
I think it's very important to book this honeymoon soon (in the next few weeks, before ticket prices go back up again). I am in the process of researching what travel insurance would cover if we postponed instead of cancelling (I know basic insurance, and Cancel For Any Reason insurance for that matter, do not cover pandemics, or fear of travel). At that pt. I sort of gave up, but now I know that I can postpone if travel is still an issue.
My fiance is more of a saver and it is very important to him to have as much investments and assets accumulated as possible, esp. in the event of a depression. I LOVE to plan; he's a "wait and see" kind of guy, which drives me nuts. He has the means to pay for this trip, but has confided that before the pandemic he didn't have barely anything in savings (which made me mad). He is NOT cheap, just frugal, and despite being my opposite, that's why I love him, because I know he would provide for our future family.
He taught me about debt and finances. I was able to crawl out of my own credit card debt last year, and have never looked at money the same way since. However, a honeymoon, while it can be extravagant, is not, in my opinion, something that should be cast aside as optional.
But, how do I convince him to book now? How do I emphasize to him how important this is? I feel like literally every other groom out there would jump at the chance. I'm tired of trying to discuss it with him and the conversation goes nowhere because he's busy and has other things on his mind.
I understand that he's feeling a lot of pressure - first the ring, now wedding, now honeymoon - all $$$$. I guess it's my fault for putting that on him because I've waited my whole life for all these things and they're all happening at once. It's a lot. I get it. But, we are not buying a new house anytime soon and I agreed to remain in the home we have now for at least a few years (with some new furniture and carpeting) because I know these things take time.
But, I refuse to let him use this virus as an excuse to get out a honeymoon.
Am I alone here? Are there any other brides out there with "frugal" significant others who give them a hard time about wedding stuff or a honeymoon? How did you get them to level with you?
I mean - we are never going to have this time back. I just think it's really abnormal. For the record - he does love me and we are on solid ground, but he did say he would take me somewhere - but when he is planning on doing this? It's all very nerve-wracking.
