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Wendy
Super August 2021

Ugh!!!! Frustrated with guests!

Wendy, on July 16, 2019 at 1:09 PM Posted in Planning 0 23
I sent my save the dates last week and they were supposed to arrive there on Thursday!!! Of last week!?? I also sent my girls a cute letter asking them to be my bridesmaids!!! Why has no one said anything!! If they received anything!!! I ended up asking my girls and they didn’t received the letters, they got lost or I don’t know what happened.... so I had to just send them a screenshot of the letters and I am so upset because that’s not how I was supposed to ask them!
and guests haven’t even said if they’ve received the save the dates! Im so upset! Did guests let you know they received them!???

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Latest activity by Trista, on July 17, 2019 at 4:28 AM
  • Allie
    Master August 2019
    Allie ·
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    No, most of my guests didn't let me know they received the Save the Date. I checked with my aunt just to make sure someone got theirs. There's really no way to know for sure unless you ask every single guest. I just didn't worry about it and made sure everyone got an invitation.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I assume they all wouldn't arrive the same day? If they are in different towns or states? Ours took two weeks total to arrive to everyone. I think my mom sent me a snapchat but I think it's weird to be like "got your save the date!" especially if you don't talk to that person regularly anyway? A save the date doesn't usually require a response.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Why would they tell you they received them? Save the dates don’t warrant any kind of response.
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  • Wendy
    Super August 2021
    Wendy ·
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    I guess I was just expecting people to be excited and be like “hey I got your save the date I can’t wait”.... instead of nothing... ;(
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  • Wendy
    Super August 2021
    Wendy ·
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    Yeah this sucks!!! Not knowing...
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  • Wendy
    Super August 2021
    Wendy ·
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    Yeah they’re all out of state so hopefully they got them.. I guess I was expecting people to be excited and let me know they got them...
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Yeah I'm sure they all got them at different times and I'm sure some don't have them yet. I'm sure they are excited but I don't think it's typical to text someone saying they got it, I've never done that when I got a save the date before. The invite is the one they would respond to.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I have never contacted someone to tell them I received their save the date. I think one of my bridesmaids snapchatted us to tell us, that’s it.
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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    A STD isn't a call to respond. So no, my guests didn't let me know they got my STDs

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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
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    I doubt they're lost. The mail is just slow.
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    I’ve never responded to a STD. I didn’t think that was something people expected. Most weddings we’ve attended have been pretty large so I can’t imagine everyone reaching out to the STD and then again to RSVP to the invite.
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  • Melissa
    VIP September 2019
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    We had a few people respond to the save the date to say they were excited, but not that many. The mail is slow and I’m sure they will be getting out to everyone soon.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
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    People generally don't respond to STD. I took a photo of the outside of the envelope and asked my friend who lives furthest to tell me when she got it.
    Also if you mailed a lot at once sometimes the post office will sort them in batches so there might be a day or so between when people get them. Sometimes a whole week if it travels far
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  • B
    Super July 2018
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    No one called us or texted us to say they got the Save the Date which also made us question if people got them because there's no way to know unless it gets returned but eventually as we'd see people in person, especially during the holidays guests would say "You're on our fridge!" or "We are saving your date!" which made us feel good Smiley smile As far as your bridesmaids go, that is strange they didn't get their letters. I'm sorry that didn't go as planned Smiley sad

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  • Melissa
    VIP October 2018
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    Outside of a few random close friends who texted me to "OMG" we received almost no response re: the save the dates. It's not a call for a response so it's not surprising. And it took some of my girls a few days to get their packages. No panic needed. The US mail is notoriously slow and some people just have too much on their plate to respond instantly Smiley smile

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  • Kristin
    Super November 2019
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    I had a couple of early hits on my website and my SIL said something about not receiving hers (her daughter, 18, received her's at the same address). Other than that, no one let me know that they got our STD and I didn't expect them too. The only other person that said anything was my mom because it took her a month and a half to get it even though I sent them all out at the same time and I dropped them at the post office literally 1 mile from their house.

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    I have never let someone know that I got a STD - I think this is very normal.

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  • J
    Master October 2019
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    Nobody really let me know they got them. I asked two bridesmaids to get a gauge on the timing it took to mail. Otherwise, no nobody said anything and I don't think they're supposed to really.

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    I think its pretty common for most people to get the save the date and put in on a fridge and not say anything. I think maybe 3 people told me that they got my save the dates. Its not like the RSVP Smiley smile I wouldn't stress too much about it. If you want you can reach out to people but I don't think its a big deal. Just make sure invitations are good to go! Smiley smile

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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
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    A few ppl responded that they received them, but not too many. I kind of used their responses that others got them. There were some problems & some were returned, basically bc I had bad addresses or zips - which was awesome that it happened them & not on the invites. Especially since the returns came in literally weeks later. I swear one took at least a month to get back to me.
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