True or False: I’ve argued with my parents or in-laws about the wedding

TRUE. Not really my parents, but my mother in law and I had but heads quite often over the guest list. That wasn't fun. And you know who brought extra un-invited people to our wedding? Of course, mother in laws family.

True. Too much, sadly.

I've argued with my mom frequently about the wedding (hot button issues: guest list, food selection, florals, invitations). FH and his mom argue often about the wedding, too (hot button issues: guest list, cost, officiant).

FALSE. My hubby & I kept our details secret which ended up working out great because no family or friends could comment, criticize or complain. We’re also older, my parents are chill & hubby’s parents have passed.

For us, false. Our parents are pretty good to give opinions but understand this is our day. Helps that we are paying for it all mistly so they can only say so much i'll listen too haha!

False. Both my parents and FH parents actually haven't been involved much in the wedding planning. They're pretty chill. If anything, I want SOME opinions lol! but I figured it's better that they're not very opinionated and will allow us to make our own decisions.

True. My dad and I got in an argument about what I would have at the bar. He's not even paying but said he's not coming if i don't have a certain drink, which basically forced FH and I to add that onto our bar for an additional charge per guest. Dad and I also got into an argument about my venue not being a church and that I am not having a Catholic wedding, or a priest officiating, and that FH is not converting and we don't attend a Catholic church.

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Luckily nobody else has argued with us about anything once FH kindly reminded them all that he is footing majority of the bill, and therefore all the details are for us to decide.

False. My parents are not in the picture and his parents just want to know when and where they need to be.

FALSE.

We’re paying for our wedding ourselves.

I just don’t discuss details so what’s there to fight about?

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False. My parents are super easy-going and FH's family hasn't asked too many questions. I consider my parents to be expert party planners so I have been listening to any advice they offer! They don't give un-solicited opinions about things I see many people on WW rant about fortunately.

FALSE!

But, it's because since the beginning i told both my parents and my mother in law that I will take care of the wedding myself, and will ask them if i need help but if not, then don't get involved

True. My parent's old fashioned views dont match up with what I want for my wedding.

I have been lucky enough to have no arguments with my parents or future in-laws. However, my FMIL did decide there was a group of family members that HAD to be invited to the wedding, months after we finalized the list. So there was that...annoying and frustrating, yes...but I didn't argue! lol

False, thank God!
My parents are just keeping track of what they are contributing to financially and lending an ear when I need it. My FFIL is our officiant so he's getting ready for that and hasn't helped with the planning process. My FMIL hasn't helped much either but we look forward to shopping for her dress together.

False. Its both our 2nd marriages so we knew what we wanted and what we didn't want. Anything traditional, we threw out the window. We have kept all the planning and details to ourselves. Our families understand and although they all want to help plan, they're all understanding.

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You don't know my dad, we didn't want to but the additional $300-ish is going to (hopefully) be worth the attempt to keep the peace

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Oh wow!! It's sad to hear how often this actually happens!

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That's good!! Going this route is sometimes best and limits the stress of having those closest to you involved in the planning!

True!!! I’ve argued with my mom and his family and I’ve really had a rough time with my more extended family. It’s very difficult since I am a people pleaser. Finally my mom kind of took a step back and said okay “this is your wedding. You’ve always been head strong and had the most amazing things happen. So I know if I just let you do your thing this will be wonderful.” (I’m her first baby. So this is rough. She’s basically been a single mom and has rocked it. She just wants to help sooooo much and has lots of ideas and so we just had to have a heart to heart to understand each other) with his family I’ve just decided to tell them when I have a decision and it’s final and not changing. With my extended family though.... I was trying to be pleasing and do things to what they liked since they were being mean and pushy ...until... my cousin and aunt said I “didn’t deserve to have a wedding. I just need to go to the court house because I am not doing things right and I’m being selfish and inconsiderate” (this was when I was deciding on a venue 30 MIN AWAY FROM THEM) (my aunt had also been really mean and said some nasty things when I told her me and my FH got a house. I was so excited and I immediately was so sad and hurt) once my family treated me like this I said let’s get our best friends together and my close family and go to Hawaii to get married. He LOVED the idea so that’s what we are doing!!!!

False. I don’t have parents of my own (biological) really. My friends I adopted as parents have just been asked to come and congratulated me.
FH dad and stepmom have been supportive but uninvolved. Now, he argued with his mom over the fact we’re not legally marrying right away but still having our wedding (another long and messy story). She apparently got over it but is otherwise completely uninvolved.