To "shoe game" or not ?

What is a shoe game? And why do people play it at weddings?

Personally, I am not for any games at a wedding. Eat, mingle, drink and dance .. best games ever!

@FMG bride and groom sit back to back and hold one of their own shoe and one of their SO's shoes. Then they get asked questions like "who does xyz more" and both raise the shoe of the person they think it applies to

I've only heard this done once and was super awkward. Questions like "who likes to be on top"

I would skip it

@Kat really? yikes!!

I still stand by what I said .. no games.

When I first saw the idea I thought it might be fun. But when I looked into it more it is awkward and it takes up lots of time that we could be dancing. I love to dance and so does the rest of my family so I do not want to waste time playing a silly game that is awkward in the first place!

The one video I saw was entertaining but wouldn't pave the way for this to be a trend. I definitely would skip it.

Good for shower, not for a wedding.

Classless and tacky. Really, your guests won't love it.

Nope

Skip it. We didn't have garter toss or bouquet toss, and we didn't replace it with anything. everyone stayed on the dance floor all night, and we had an amazing time!

Don't do it. Any time I've seen it done, guests hardly pay attention. This is a good opportunity for them to go to the bathroom, step outside fro fresh air, refresh their drink at the bar, etc. I find it extremely boring...

@AL relax there. Tacky maybe but classless is a big stretch

ETA: Didn't you sing show tunes at your wedding...some might call that tacky you know. Like people said its a know your crowd kinda thing

@Keisha, I'm allowed to think people taking off their shoes at a wedding and playing shower games is classless. But thanks.

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ETA. Classless is def a stretch.

Definitely a know your crowd situation. I've never seen it done at weddings I've been to, so we probably won't end up doing it. We're not doing the bouquet or garter toss either, but I don't think you need to add in something else just to replace those. I would ask the band their experience on when they have done the shoe game in the past.

We are doing it, but it is only 12 questions and will be while guests are finishing up dinner. It is a know your crowd thing. My family and his family have both done this at their weddings and people seem to enjoy it. We just aren't having it interrupt and of the dancing/party portion.

I went to one wedding that had this, and it was entertaining and everyone laughed. So I don't think it's always awkward/boring. However, that wedding had so many games/traditions/etc that we hardly got any dancing time and I think guests enjoy time to dance and mingle way more than watching a shoe game.

My friends played this game at their wedding shower, not the wedding. Skip it

Looking at the big picture here - no one is going to walk out or hold a grudge because you played a shoe game for a few minutes. If you really want to play it and think your crowd would like it then go for it. It would work best for just a few minutes and with a smaller crowed, imo.

If you're just contemplating this because of the DJ's suggestion, don't worry no one will be upset that there isn't a sub for the garter/bouquet toss.

As a wedding guest, I don't enjoy interruptions to the party or delays in getting the party started where we're expected to sit or stand around and just watch. Things like the tosses or cake cutting don't bother me because they're pretty quick. In a minute, I'm going to be able to get back on the dance floor or resume my conversation with another guest. While I've never seen the shoe game in person, my understanding is that it takes up some time and during that time, your guests don't have much to do. I remember one wedding where after dinner and before the spotlight dances, the groom performed a song for the bride AND the groom's uncle got up and performed several opera songs. It was sweet, but way too much. No one could talk, no one could get up to get a fresh drink, and we we're delayed from getting out on the dance floor and delayed from getting cake. I'd be afraid that stopping to play a game like the shoe game would kill any momentum your guests have to dance and celebrate.