The Night Before The Wedding: Together or Apart?

So my husband and I got married at the courthouse back in 2018 and are having our formal wedding next month 😱 so people asked us if we would be staying separate the night before but I knew that was a no for us. We sleep much better together and we are renting an Airbnb for the wedding so we already have our room picked out for us. Plus we are doing a quick rehearsal that morning so we would see each other anyways. Do what feels right for you!

We've been living together for 2 years now it'll be four by the time we get married and we are choosing to stay apart the night before. I like you cannot sleep well without him but I have a feeling either way I won't be able to sleep because of being excited. But I want to be the first time he sees me in my dress and FH feels the same.

We planned to stay apart until literally 9 pm the night before, for no reason other than tradition. We were getting my wife's things together to leave and I said "I wish you didn't have to go," and she was like "well, why am I then? lol. We unpacked her stuff and stayed together with no regrets. We both slept well, were super excited when we woke up, and went our separate ways.

My fiancé and I are planning on sleeping separate the night before. The night before we are going to have like a mini bachelor/bachelorette party. We will have had our big bachelor/bachelorette parties already. He is planning on just him and the groomsmen playing video games and ordering pizza the night before. I am planning on having my bridesmaids and my sisters(his and mine) for a game night and we will get our nails done and make the wedding bouquets.

We spend the night apart since I was getting ready at our apartment and H was getting ready at his parents' house. It was a little weird, but we talked on messenger until bed so it was kind of like the old days before we lived together. I feel like I would have slept the same whether he was there or not due to nerves.

We lived together before getting married and stayed together the night before the wedding. I’m so glad we did because I was having a lot of anxiety and he helped calm me down!

I don’t really care either way, but my mom and my FMIL have both put the fear of tradition into my FH and he doesn’t want to see each other the day before the wedding. I’d talk to your FS and see how they feel on the subject.

We are planning on spending the night apart. I'm going to stay in the bridal suite at the venue (it's a hotel) plus this is where the females in the bridal party will be getting ready so it just made more sense. This way I can set up the room the way I want and hopefully get some sleep. I do sleep better next to my FH but this is one thing that we really want to do. We want to wait to see each other when I walk down the aisle.

We are staying together the night before. We have an awesome suite at the hotel and wanted to share this with him! Also why pay for another room??

Also, I am also anxious about being anxious that night and need him to calm me down. I also am at the point where I can't sleep at night without him next to me (we've been living together for a little over a year).

I think we are going to spend the night together. We will have lived together for 4 years by then and I think we will just both feel calmer staying together, plus it's a DW so saving money on an extra room haha. I'll probably just sneak out early before he wakes up to go get ready.

We are going to spend the night apart. I will be staying at the "bridal suite" and he will be staying with his parents. I think its just easier since my home is very small and all the ladies plus MUA and stylist wont fit.

We stayed together. We checked into our hotel Thursday night into a suite, so we were all settled in & comfortable. We stayed together Thursday & Friday night. I knew we would both sleep together better Friday night, we didn't have to get another room or stay with someone we aren't used to staying with, we both got a good night's sleep, and we both woke up and ate breakfast together. I kissed him goodbye at 9:30 AM to leave for the venue and saw him at 5:30 PM when I walked down the aisle - our venue had no cell service so we didn't text or call or anything either. It was still just as romantic and beautiful, and when we got back to the hotel we were settled into our room and didn't have to look for makeup remover, pajamas, snacks, etc.

I'm thinking if we stay separate, we would get a room or AirBnB and i'll have my MOH and he'll have his best man so we can just get ready without seeing each other. That way we can still be surprised when we see each other.

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This is beautiful!! Good for you guys

We’ve lived together for 3 years. We spent the night before apart, it was exciting.

We are staying together until the morning of the wedding. We will both be a puddle of nerves and since we keep each other grounded we are not staying separately the night before. Plus...I'd like to get some sleep. I sleep like crap when he's not in bed with me and same goes for him. And since the place I'm getting ready at is 3 miles from our house where he and the guys will be getting ready.

We had been living together for 4 years and spent the night together at the hotel the night before the wedding. Then I kicked him out in the morning so my bridal party and I could get ready!

We decided at the last minute to spend the night before the wedding together and I’m so glad we did! Logistically it made sense with where we were getting ready and timing for the whole day. We woke up, and 10 minutes later he left to get ready with the guys and all my bridesmaids showed up so we could get ready and we didn’t see each other again until the first look. I’m glad we got to be together the night before the wedding. We got to reflect on the rehearsal/welcome dinner and talk about how excited we were for the day ahead

FH and I are always together. We are spending it apart. It’ll just make the moment we see each other even better

We say well be apart the night before. Buuuut we have 15 yrs in and we ask each other every night unless one of us fell asleep already "are you ready to go to bed?" Then we go to bed. I don't really think we'll be able to do it. My fh actually said we can have bachelor/ette parties together. But that's too much, right?