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This is the purpose of the honeymoon! It's a way for the couple to relax and spend one-on-one time together after the months/years of planning.

View Quoted Comment I appreciate your response. I've never had a formal wedding so I'm not sure what's so different from the honeymoon and a regular getaway?! Are there any special ways to celebrate being MARRIED?!?

Each couple will celebrate differently. I made the wedding the fun stuff, everything else is marriage. Within our one month of marriage, we bonded over thank- you cards. I also tackled government name changing, end-of-year tax savings, and a promotion to replenish funds. He planned the honeymoon logistics. I guess this is all married people stuff. P.S. Honeymoon is a mindset, too, so destination doesn't have to matter.

While the timing or expense doesn’t immediately work out for everyone, the purpose of a honeymoon is to get away from jobs, routines, and responsibilities, to be able to focus on just the two of you. It can be an exotic trip or a staycation of just a couple of days. It’s about celebrating your new marriage as newlyweds.


How you like to celebrate or where depends on your FI and your own likes and dislikes. What one person finds relaxing another may consider boring. What you find fun or a way to “blow off steam” may be unappealing to someone else. What makes it special is something that’s special to you.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your reply. Planning a wedding has been an experience we have never been through, so it makes for a challenge finding "normal" for afterwards when all the chaos is over. I purchased books that I can read on the flight but I want some activities/ideas that successful couples have tried because that's the purpose of this forum

View Quoted Comment This was EXACTLY what I was looking for!! I hadn't even thought about some of these things! Thanks so much for sharing!!!

The honeymoon was a great way for us to unwind from the wedding planning craziness! We also bought a house shortly after our wedding, so that gave us something else to focus on. My husband and I are still intentional about planning date nights and traveling together, and also setting aside time to meet up with friends too, so all of that helps keep our relationship balanced.

After the wedding, make sure to continue to put effort into the relationship, and always communicate. Find events or activities that you both enjoy, and set aside time to do those. If you still want something wedding-related to do after the wedding, you could both sit down and write vendor reviews together, or put together a photo album or memory book from your wedding day, write thank you notes to your guests, sell any decor that you don't need anymore, or even start thinking about how you'll celebrate your first anniversary!

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!

We got a champagne and candle lit massage the day after our wedding and it was great to just relax, spend time with each other and decompress after the series of wedding events

View Quoted Comment Thisssss sounds like something we would both enjoy VERY much! Thanks for sharing!

So my husband and I got married in September, we have been together for 8 years , but there is always some building, we started with something so we learned during premarital counseling, and honestly it’s a new task every day💜 we have a standing date night and if we have to work we find another day and we always try to do something we don’t normally do and also look up cute date night ideas on Pinterest. Also praying with each other and setting our intentions weekly helps. I send daily scriptures. Good luck and Congratulations 🎉🍾🎈🎊

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Oh, I couldn't think of these things before the wedding, not enough brain space for even a honeymoon. But, afterwards we found joy in planning a retirement for 2 by manipulating investments, maxing out 401k's, sorting life and health insurance, and other long-term financial stability. Joining money is a process though! But, yes it's also fun saving money with couple's memberships like the gym and other organizations we enjoy.

View Quoted Comment This is something we developed after pre marital counseling and I absolutely believe it built us both individually and as a couple! I appreciate your validation and help in knowing it can keep us on a healthy path in the future! Sometimes it's difficult to maintain consistency BUT it's proved to be worth it.

View Quoted Comment This is awesome!!! Thank you!!

View Quoted Comment This is GOLDEN!! Good time to start is during the honeymoon?? I don't know if financial planning is "pregame" for romance and relaxation for me. Numbers just stress me out in general tho(I managed TOO many corporate budgets) I absolutely see us planning these things within the first year of being married, but the brain space will be FRIED after all of the wedding chaos

Congrats on your upcoming wedding! After all the planning, slipping away quietly with your new spouse for some quality time makes sense. We did a picnic dinner in a secluded spot - no talking about lists or to-dos, just being present. Quality conversation and laughter are the best steam blowers. Even taking a secret "we did it!" moment together works wonders. Wishing you smooth sailing into married life!