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Beginner April 2022

Stressed Out 🤦🏾‍♀️

Jashante, on June 14, 2021 at 5:17 AM Posted in Planning 0 12
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I have 7 bridesmaids one of them offered to have my dress made because she knew someone she also volunteered her services for the invitations because again she knew someone and was supposed to have hair and make up done as her gift, now all of this was back in February. A month later after me asking about the dress she says the person can no longer do it for whatever reason so I had to buy a dress. Easter was the last time we spoke about the invitations she said her friend was still going to do it but last week when I asked her about it that person could no longer do it. I was going to purchase invitations back in February but now that company has gone up tremendously with their prices and now I have to figure that out. She also had people for hair and makeup but at this point everyone she has suggested has not been reliable and she hasn't been communicating these things unless I ask her about it so I'll probably have to find other people for that. One of my bridesmaids dropped out Friday and I had a feeling she would but its understandable and I'm glad she gave me notice but both girls are my fiancès family and I asked them to be apart of it because of that reason now here I am trying to figure it out. I've been doing all the planning myself and I'm not into any of this so I've just been doing the best I can and figuring it out as I go. Ive let all the girls know in February the dresses I wanted them to get and for them to order in more than enough time. The dress has sold out twice since then, the price has gone up and only two people have ordered their dress. I feel like everyone is grown and I shouldn't have to keep staying on top of anyone to do things they know they should be doing. I'm not into the whole planning thing and picking things out or anything but I've been looking into centerpieces, flowers, invitations, cakes etc all on my own. I don't know anything about weddings whatsoever so all of this is new to me but I'm thankful for wedding wire because I would legit be clueless and have no idea on anything.

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Latest activity by Rebelle Fleur, on June 14, 2021 at 2:50 PM
  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    I would stope relying on her for any help with the wedding as it is evident that she is very unreliable.


    As far as invitations goes you can try vistaprint (they have 40-50% off sales often), zazzle, annsbridalbargains, minted, and Walgreens.
    Try the thumbtack app you can find a great number of hair/mua there a well as florist, photographers etc in every price range.
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  • J
    Beginner April 2022
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    I have which is why I've been looking into different hair stylists and makeup artist. She volunteered these things I didn't even ask her which makes it more frustrating.


    Thank you but for invitations I want full thick black acrylic and everywhere does not offer those like they do for stationary ones. I've even checked a few of the sites you mentioned because they pop up on google but when you go to their sites and actually search for them they're not there and can't be found or only a portion of acrylic. But I will definitely look into the thumbtack app and hopefully I can find what I need🤞🏾🤞🏾 thank you
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
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    Wow. That’s terrible.

    Your welcome!
    Multiple stores on Etsy have acrylic invites. So I’d shop around there If you haven’t already.
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  • J
    Beginner April 2022
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    Ohh yesssss etsy has been my best friend lol I'm actually getting quite a few things from there
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  • Ashlee
    Super September 2022
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    I'm sorry to hear you're having issues, but regardless of how into wedding planning you are or how new you are to it, your bridesmaids are not required to help you with planning. The only thing they have to do is get the dress and stand up with you. Anything above that is nice but not required and shouldn't be expected.

    Hopefully you're able to find all the things that you're wanting for invites and hair/makeup. Congrats on your wedding!

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  • J
    Beginner April 2022
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    Thank you and I completely understand that but she volunteered those services I didn't ask her to do anything so that's what has me upset.
    I was already doing those things on my own and had companies I was going to work with, but when she said she had it and for me not to worry about it that's what I did. Here we are months later and everything she said she would do has not came through and that's what has thrown me off. I could have had these things taken care of so that's where my frustration comes in
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  • J
    Beginner April 2022
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    Just to be clear Ladies I am not mad because she isn't doing anything. I'm mad because I did not ask her to do anything she offered. I was already handling everything and had companies I was going to work with back in February.


    She stepped in and volunteered to have those things done but months later she has flaked on everything she said she would do. That's where my frustration comes in because I could have taken care of everything as planned or been working on it. I did not ask her to do anything but apparently she's unreliable and going back on her word
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  • Sara
    Savvy July 2021
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    I'm sorry you're feeling stressed our from your bridesmaids. Sometimes I really think the saying 'less is more' definitely applies to situations like this for us because I have the same number of bridesmaids. I do not feel that I have the most support from them either. I thought about going the extra mile on gifts in addition to other gifts I was going to give, but then decided it was good enough what I had already got for them. I am about 45 days away from the wedding and I'm just going to keep things simple from here on out. I am SOOOO ready for this to be over with so I can just go on my honeymoon (THE BEST PART FOR SURE). I've planned all that I can at this point except the seating chart (getting started) and I'm going to do it the way I want. I have been done for a long time with bending over backwards and then some for people when they don't do the same for me. I have had no support from my own mother either.


    The beauty of planning mostly everything on my own - there is no other voice sitting there telling me their opinion on the color of linens or little things like what flavored cupcakes I should serve. I have found so much honest support on here and also from Brides.com for etiquette and things like that. I have learned a lot and have enjoyed planning WAY MORE on my own! In fact it's fun now because I just keep things simple and just have fun with things!

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  • J
    Beginner April 2022
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    Awwww I'm sorry you're going through that as well. It is very stressful as it is especially when you don't have the support you need I completely understand. I'm happy your big day is coming soon I agree I'm ready for it to be over as well lol. I think the seating chart may be an easier task or at least hopefully I was just going to sit each family at a table for the most part and not think too much mixing and matching our families it's mostly his family anyway. I hope that will be a breeze for you. I'm happy you've had fun for the most part I should've been on here sooner myself but my sister passed away and I took a break from everything including my business just not being active like I should've been. Now I'm trying to get focused again and here I am. I will check out brides.com and etiquette for more pointers. I wish you nothing but the best and happiness on the rest of this journey, YOUR big day and a beautiful bright future with your husband ❤❤
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  • Sara
    Savvy July 2021
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    I'm very sorry for your loss. I wish you a happy wedding day and a prosperous business 💓
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  • J
    Beginner April 2022
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    Thank you so much 💞
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
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    I’ve been trying to stay away because everyday I’ll find something else I “need”.
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