Stress or Anxiety

Planning a December wedding and we are now just under 100 days until I Do! Honestly, months ago I was anxious, stressed, and thought there is no way we can make this happen. But I just had to LET IT GOOO! We had to drop all our previous expectations and become really flexible. First though, me and my partner sat down and said what are our limits were to canceling/staying, what are must haves and don't wants, and made a lot of plan A,B,C's. We basically decided what is the most important and the rest doesn't matter. We reduced our guest list in half and began planning everything with a pandemic lense full of flexibility and open-mindedness. Even now, we know our plans can change in an instant and we are at peace with it. After I let go all my previous expectations it releived a lot of pressure. I still feel frantic at times, but I breathe, talk it out, and re-adjust! You will get through this, no matter what y'all choose to do! It may not be exactly what you envisioned, but it can still be great!

I remember when it came close to the wedding I definitely took a day and just relaxed with my husband. We went out and got a couple massages. We just needed a day where it wasn’t about wedding planning and logistics anymore because it can get overwhelming

View Quoted Comment Great advice! Focusing on the important things definitely makes it easier. Not getting too caught up in the small details and being willing to let go is great!!! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

View Quoted Comment Yes!!! Taking a break from it all helps!

Covid threw us through a loop. went from a 92 person wedding to 7 people. What helped was setting aside time for self care: date night or wine night, walking, journaling, venting to trusted people and even therapy. It kept my mind stable

We're at two weeks out. At this point we're a bottle of wine/ day habit.

We have never been happier.

View Quoted Comment Wow that’s a big change. I’m glad you found ways to stay healthy during those tough moments.

View Quoted Comment No judgement here. 😂. I totally understand. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!!

View Quoted Comment Thanks! We all gotta do what's best for us!

We made lists of different scenarios that could impact our wedding and came up with plans for each of them. We started doing it when the pandemic shutdowns started, but we never completely stopped - I bought an umbrella in our wedding colors the day before. It didn't rain, but having it all of those plans made it feel like we'd be able to handle anything that came up. Also, I don't know how much you're worried about the whole covid situation, but making a comprehensive plan to keep people safe made me feel better.


Looking at what I just typed, I realize that obsessively planning things is probably not relaxing for everyone. I knew from the beginning that I wasn't really concerned about doing things the traditional way and I wasn't, and still am not, really interested in what (most) other people had to say about our plans, but it can still be difficult to know how to respond when people you care about think their opinion is important. Reminding myself over and over that it's our day/s, we're inviting them to celebrate (eventually) with us, but it's not about them was not relaxing. But, after doing that enough times, I was able to let things go without feeling bad or really even thinking too much about it, and that really reduced my stress level.
I also find yoga really relaxing.

8 days out and my FH has been working nights for the past 18 days straight so I have been trying to shut my brain off and relax alone. I try doing sheet face masks but I get so bored sitting still lol.

View Quoted Comment Wow only 8 more days. That’s so exciting. Glad you are able to find ways to relax.