Step dad vs dad walking me down the aisle

Please help! My stepdad has been around since I was 3 months old and he’s the one who taught me how to drive, sat with me to do homework on school nights, and rubbed my head when I couldn’t sleep at night. My bio-dad and I had an up and down relationship, mostly because of his relationship with my mom. They can’t stand each other and it always put a wedge in our relationship. However I did have my own reasons for disliking him at times. He loves me but I don’t feel like he ever really knew me. My stepdad knows me through and through. Our relationship is much much closer. My bio dad and I went 5-6 years without talking (my choice) and a couple of years ago I decided to welcome him back into my life and things have been great since. Him and my fiancé get along well and our relationship is solid. Back when I welcomed him into my life again, my stepdad felt insecure and asked me if he would still be the one to walk me down the aisle, to which I responded “of course. You earned it”. Fast forward to now, we are planning our wedding and I am so nervous to tell my bio-dad that I want my stepdad to walk me down the aisle. I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I’m not interested in having both of them walk me down the aisle or having them split the walk because I feel like my stepdad would be hurt by that and I’ve only ever envisioned my stepdad walking me down. That’s what I want. But 1.) how do I tell my bio-dad that? And 2.) how else can I include him in the ceremony so he feels special?


I do plan on doing dances with both of them during the reception so I’m only looking for suggestions during the ceremony 🤍