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Alyssa
Dedicated January 2020

Special role for 20-year-old niece?

Alyssa, on August 26, 2019 at 12:32 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

We are having a large wedding party, we have four brothers and they are all married with children. We are having the siblings and in-laws all as groomsmen/bridesmaids/ushers and the kids 12 and under are reading or acting as flower girls. We have one niece that is 20 and I'd love for her to have a special role as she would be the only one left out. Since we have 8 couples, I don't want to add another. Do you ladies have any ideas on a special thing she could do? We are having a Catholic wedding, and she could read the Petitions (separate prayers from the readings) but her mom mentioned it might not be a great fit. Do we give her a corsage and let her hang with the girls on the morning of the wedding? We love her and talk to her often but I wouldn't consider us "close" as we are nearly 30 and I've only known her a few years. I want her to feel special and loved, but I don't want to make her a personal attendant or feel like she's only there to work. Thoughts? Thanks!

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Latest activity by Alyssa, on August 26, 2019 at 6:05 PM
  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    I would definitely have her hang out with the girls the morning of if you're comfortable with that. The reading would also be nice if that's something she would feel comfortable doing. Otherwise I'm not sure how else you could incorporate her without it seeming like a "job" she's been assigned or something too juvenile like walking a sign down the aisle.

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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
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    Are you having any candles lit for the ceremony? We had our 21- year old daughter light the two candles used in the unity candle. She actually was the first person down the aisle to begin the ceremony.

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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
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    I was going to suggest lighting candles, like the previous poster mentioned. You could also have her ask everyone to stand for the bride before you walk in. I know most people know to do this, but it would be a way to incorporate her while not giving her a role too childish.
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  • Alyssa
    Dedicated January 2020
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    Thank you all, these are great ideas! We are also considering having her be an "escort" for her twin siblings, who are 12 and are already agreed to reading verses, and possibly carrying my 6-month-old niece down the aisle... they would be one of the first to go down. Then she can sit with all the littles, she is studying to work in daycare so she would love that. I plan to get her a corsage as well. Thoughts on this?

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    I think getting her a corsage would be very sweet!

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  • Alyssa
    Dedicated January 2020
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    Thanks! I just really want her to feel part of it since all her family is in it.
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