Bit of a rant more than anything. Our wedding is small (40 ppl) and I’m not having bridesmaids because I wanted to avoid upsetting people as I have a lot of friends but none I’m super close to really that I’d want as a bridesmaid and I didn’t want to feel obligated to ask my future sister in law/hurt her feelings by not asking g her so all around decided against it. I’m having my two brothers as “bridesmen” and they’ll pretty much just walk down the aisle before me and that’s where their duties end really. No speeches or helping me get ready etc.
The day I decided on that I said to my Fiance that maybe his sister could walk with one of my brothers and throw/pass tissues to people as a joke since my brother was going to hold a box of tissues instead of flowers as a bit of fun. She agreed to it months ago.
Get a text a few days ago “I’ve decided I’m of comfortable walking down the aisle but I’ll enjoy it as a regular guest”
Bizarre. My Fiance asks why, to the response “felt like an afterthought being asked to do that. Also, she’s (me) having bridesmen and I said about being your (my SO) groomswoman but you didn’t ask me.”
So she’s salty because my Fiance is having a best man who isn’t her, I’m not having bridesmaids. She told my Fiance she could be a groomswoman apparently a few weeks ago. He didn’t want that and is only having his best friend be a best man. Siblings dont normally HAVE a role in a wedding regardless. Let’s also mention we asked her to be a witness for the wedding months ago.
We aren’t really having a wedding party at all, no ushers, etc. this is the second time now she’s not happy that her role isn’t what she wanted in a wedding. Apparently a few years ago she was p’d because her best friend made her a “co maid of honor”. My grandmother is dying from cancer right now and I can’t believe she’s mad about something like that. We could ask her the day before our wedding to do something and she should do it for her brother. But nope. Honestly this wedding planning hasn’t stressed me out once. I’m sick of other people’s opinions on OUR!! Wedding. Ugh
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