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Pat
Rockstar May 2023

Something old, something new .......

Pat, on September 4, 2021 at 10:53 AM Posted in Planning 0 14
This question is for all you older (but ageless) brides out there who are doing this wedding fun for a second (or third) time!

Are you including the "something old, something new...." tradition? My gf is insistent every bride needs to have this, no matter. Curious as to how many others feel. (I am not doing a garter, or that bouquet toss.)

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Latest activity by Pamela, on June 5, 2023 at 10:23 PM
  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I'm not old & I've only been married once but I didn't even include it when I got married, I didn't care to follow that tradition 🤷🏾‍♀️. So it's definitely not a necessity
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  • AJ
    Super October 2022
    AJ ·
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    I’ve never been married, but I will not be doing the some old, new, borrowed, blue at my wedding. We also aren’t doing bouquet or garter toss.
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    VIP July 2017
    Becky ·
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    This is my only marriage, but I was "older" (I guess 37 is older?) when we got married. We didn't do tosses - for a number of reasons; but I did do the old, new, borrowed, blue.

    Old - my mom's veil

    New - dress

    Borrowed - butterfly pin

    Blue - panties

    There also used to be a lady on here who would send a "year penny" and she sent me a 2017 penny that I taped inside my shoe (sandals, so I needed something to hold it in place lol)

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  • Pat
    Rockstar May 2023
    Pat ·
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    I'm 65 - will be 66 when we finally say "I do". LOLOL So your are definitely not "old". Smiley laugh

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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I was over 35 when we got married.

    We skipped the bouquet toss and such, but I totally did the old/new/borrowed blue. In my case: grandmother's pearl necklace/clothing/stepmother's pearl earrings/underwear and headpiece.

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Second time bride. Didn’t do it the first time and not doing it this time either. I don’t even know the story behind the old, new, borrowed, blue tradition anyway and haven’t bothered looking it up because it isn’t one of those things that matters to me. Last week, we canceled our wedding plans and decided to elope instead. But, prior to that change we weren’t doing a garter/bouquet toss anyway.


    I noticed that you’re getting married on my birthday …congrats!!!
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  • Rosie
    Master February 2022
    Rosie ·
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    I agree with the others that it absolutely is a personal choice! If it means nothing to you and you're not bothered, leave it out! To me, it shouldn't have anything to do with your age or how many marriages you've had. Instead, I see it as a fun way for your family and friends to lend/gift/whatever something meaningful to show you their support as you go through a life change or milestone. I love that on my wedding day, I will have a handkerchief with our initials embroidered in blue on it, made by my grandmother-in-law. That my mother will lend me my however-many great maternal grandmother's 170 year-old wedding ring. That my parents took the time to buy me an Irish coin with a hare on it from the year THEY were married, which also stands in for my paternal grandparents. Having these things makes me feel supported and loved by my ancestors as I move into a new part of my life. It feels nice, you know? But not everyone has that sentimentality, or that thought around these items, in which case - leave it out! It's a nice addition, not a requirement!

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  • Lori
    Just Said Yes December 2021
    Lori ·
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    I'm not doing a garter toss or a bouquet toss. It was a personal decision. I thought a long time about my own garter and decided to get one, for me and only me as a keepsake. I have my something old, new, borrowed, and blue.....to each their own.

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  • K
    Devoted February 2022
    Kristie ·
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    It's my first wedding and I'm 41 so I guess you can call me an older bride. I'm not doing the something old, etc., but we are doing a twist on the garter and bouquet toss. For both tosses we are gathering all the men (for the garter) and all the women (for the bouquet) and whoever's catches it will be given a bottle of liquor. That way nobody feels left out.
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    Savvy October 2022
    Kristina ·
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    "The rhyme "Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue" dates back to at least 19th century Lancastershire. It refers to five things a bride should wear on her wedding day. They're meant to provide protection for her baby and prosperity for the couple. Mar 27, 2017"

    I goggled it because my first wedding was nothing close to what I really wanted. I will be getting married for a second time and I have been contemplating this idea myself simply because of pure superstation. I want this to be my last time ever being married. So I am looking for all the luck I can get.


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  • Candace
    Super March 2022
    Candace ·
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    I'm not planning to have the "something borrowed* bit. I'm 45 and this will be my first wedding. I'm also not having anyone walk me down the aisle, pull out my garter in front of everyone, or call out all the single women to catch my very expensive bouquet lol. I've decided to be thoughtful about the traditions that I will include instead of trying to do all of them that have no meaning to me.
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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·
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    I definitely did this as a second time bride.

    Old- my earrings

    New- Dress

    Borrowed- Tiara

    Blue- necklace

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  • Natalie
    August 2021
    Natalie ·
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    My aunt did this at her second wedding. She said she denied the tradition at her first one but the second one should be more fun and thus she's doing all the stuff she previously had called ridiculous Smiley laugh For the 'something old' part though, she had a video with old wedding photos of her parents, grandparents and g g g parents. I helped with montage and also fixed some pictures in photoglory for her, and even though it's not something she wore (so not technically a tradition) it was still a very nice bit.

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    Pamela ·
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    This was refreshing to read. While it might not mean a thing to the bride, I think it unfortunate that women who watched you grow up and become a bride cannot participate in something that meant something to them back in their day and have probably waited years to be able to share with you on your wedding day. It’s not for everyone, I understand. I would just hold out a little hope for brides to remember how important they are to family and how long our loved ones have waited for this day for you to see you become a bride.
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