So overwhelmed

We are in similar boat: my MOH is giving speech but best man is not and that’s okay! I’m cool with it. Is there a reason you want both to give speeches?
As far as kids go: is there a logical reason you cannot have them? Cost is too high, not enough space in venue? If yes then I would think that would be my argument every time someone wants to get fussy about it. We have about 150 invited INLCUDING kids (I have two kids of my own so wanted to be sure family members kids could come) but by adding kids I’ve probably added 3000 extra expenses: extra kids room rented at venue, extra kids food added to catering menu, babysitters, Knick knacks to keep kids busy, etc. So it’s definitelt a big deal and big cost to include kids. Is your best man traveling? I can see traveling parents having a hard time finding childcare so that situation is difficult for them. But they should have plenty of time to find a sitter. I think you should just be prepared for all the parents to leave the wedding early in order to get back to relieve the sitters for the night. If you’re okay w that, then you’re set. However, if any part of you is on the fence about kids (maybe for family only) and if you have space and funds, then including kids might help out those parents and keep everyone in attendance longer. Just some food for thought. I’m sure you’ve heard it all before, so sorry in advance.

Sigh.... I am so sorry. It's one igjt and people can find babysitting. I am sorry people are making the day about you. Why are you and your husband fighting? Don't let the stress make you two argue
Is the wedding local? May be tacky but could kids attend the ceremony and the reception be adults only. Does the fh want kids there?

I am so tired of people telling me who to invite to my wedding. People sure do love spending MY money. Rant over.

As far as the speeches go, I wouldn’t worry about MOH giving a speech. Speeches are not a necessity at a wedding, and most people find them boring anyway LOL Dont waste any more time needlessly stressing on it. Now as far as the decision to have an adults only wedding... do not feel bad! This is a very very common practice these days. It doesn’t matter what your reasoning is – it is your day and you can make that decision. Stick to your guns! It sounds to me like the best man is being dramatic, and a horrible friend! His role is simply to show up and support his friend. It sounds like FH needs to sit down and have a chat with him. Because he is being so resistant to the rule, I would probably explain to him that finances do not allow for children to attend, and you cannot make an exception for one person‘s child and not everybody else’s. He should tell him that he would hope as his best friend that he would understand and stand next to him and support him during this big event. If he chooses not to simply because he does not want to get a babysitter for an evening, I would say that says all you need to know about that friendship. it’s amazing how people will make somebody else’s wedding about themselves. It sounds like this is what the best man is doing. I am so sorry! Just remember... you do not need a wedding party to stand up with you in order for you to marry the love of your life. This day is about the two of you and the commitment you are making to one another. So rest assured that at the end of the day, no matter what happens, you will be marrying your best friend 😊 so stick to your guns, don’t stress about the outcome, and just enjoy being a bride!!

I feel this. I've got a month and a half to go and I just cried for almost an hour last night about I don't even know what just because I'm overwhelmed.

Just take a deep breath, you've come this far and you've got this!

Do you have a day of coordinator? If not and its in the budget you may want to explore that route to take some pressure off. As for the speeches, I would just see if there's anyone else that might be willing to give a speech. Maybe you have another friend that might be willing to do it? And as far as the best man's kids. Depending where your festivities are would it be possible to compromise with him to hire an babysitter that can keep the kids? I think this is more ideal if the wedding is at a hotel because they can just go into one of the rooms. But if he's not far maybe offer to get him a babysitter. And if he is travelling maybe see if you can find somewhere that a babysitter can keep the kids?

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Chrysta gave solid, very useful advice. I 100% agree

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You did not know that is how weddings work? :p lol. It is frustrating that people do that. I am so sorry.

I think it’s ok she doesn’t want to do a speech. ‘It’s hard for everyone to be good about public speech. It is tiring though to hear people complain so much about invitations to a wedding aha like this is your wedding you should be able to invite who you CAN afford to.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! After reading this I feel so much better 🙂 I think we will just skip speeches.

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Regarding the whole, you don't need a wedding party... OMG yes! When I first got engaged I actually googled "What do groomsmen do?" and it turns out these days, they mostly get drunk with the groom. Even carrying the rings around is usually taken away from them by a more responsible bridesmaid lol And bridesmaids? You don't really need more than one - to adjust your dress train and veil and hold that stupid bouquet everyone insists you have and carry the rings in their purse or pocket. So for any of them to act so dramatic and like you can't have the day without them? Sheesh...