Small Wedding Big Bachelorette?

1. Whoever is planning your bachelorette party is only to invite people who are invited to the wedding.

2. Do not plan your own bachelorette party.

Anyone that's invited to the pre-wedding events should also be invited to the wedding.

No, it’s inconsiderate to include anyone not invited to the wedding. In this case asking people to shell out for a destination bachelorette makes it even worse.

Yeah I say that’s a no go. It’s not great to ask people to your bachelorette that you can’t or won’t invite to your wedding. Especially a destination bachelorette

That would be extremely rude! Don't do it!

This might be possible if maybe, Maybe, you had a wedding that was immediate family only. But, you added "close friends" which means you're already ranking people. The other friends will feel you don't believe they are good enough or special enough for you to spend money on them (with a reception), but you want them to spend their own $ to celebrate you at an attention-seeking, mini- party anyway. Adding destination trip (that you plan yourself) makes you appear even more bratty, cheap, and exclusionist. Don't risk it.

This would be very rude. You can't ask people to come celebrate something they're not invited to participate in. Same goes with showers.

I would just not have them come at all because i would be a little offended if i got invited to batchelorette but i don’t even get to celebrate with you on your big day just keep the people that are going to your wedding in your batchelorette i would have an engagement party that everyone can come to but not the batchelorette