Shower Gifting Question

You could also get them something like a picture frame! That way, it's a tangible gift that's useful, but still something small that they probably won't feel the need to return it.

I’ve noticed that recently receiving and opening gifts at a shower has become much less common in my circle - and even when giving a physical gift many people have it shipped to the house and thus still show up empty handed. This is even more true when the shower is in a different state from where the bride lives. Honestly you shouldn’t feel bad showing up empty handed, that is literally what the couple is asking for with their registry. If you really want to bring something, then a nice card would probably be appreciated!

View Quoted Comment Good idea. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Very true. I guess I just feel like if I’m going to a hosted event, I should bring something lol. But we will definitely be contributing to the honeymoon fund.

Don’t feel bad showing up empty handed! The bride and everyone in attendance is aware the couple only registered for a honey fund, and are not expecting you to show up with a tangible gift. The fact that they only registered for a honeyfund leads me to believe they either don’t want the additional clutter in their home, or that they feel uncomfortable opening gifts in front of others. Either way, I am sure they will actually appreciate you not bringing a physical gift

In this situation I would probably bring a card with a check or cash instead of putting money in the online fund. Money is money and that way I wouldn't feel odd being empty handed.

Honestly, I think this is one of the problems with having a shower and then only asking for money. People have been conditioned for decades to attend showers with gift in hand and now the rules are changing and it can feel so confusing and awkward. If I were you I would "follow the rules" and only give money and not bring an extra, tangible gift (though you could bring cash or a check in a card; that would certainly be tangible!).

Same deal for the wedding; don't bring an extra gift then either.

I'd do a wrapped bottle of wine.


My friend had a cash registry. EVERYONE brought a very bridal showery gift to the shower, and she opened them all in front of us

I'd say bring a card and make some mention of how much you hope they enjoy their honeymoon.

For my shower I got a couple of gifts that weren't on my registry and I cant wait to find an occasion to re-gift them. While the gesture is thoughtful and lovely, sometimes extra presents can take up space and be more of a hassle than they're worth.

Booze is appreciated in most cases!