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Jessica
Just Said Yes August 2024

Should i get pregnant before my wedding?

Jessica, on April 10, 2024 at 7:58 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

I am wondering if my fiancé and I should start trying for a baby before the wedding. I am 36 years years old and he is 38. Our wedding is in five months, but having a family is very important to us. I am very conflicted about whether to wait until after the wedding to start trying, or should we start now?

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Latest activity by Amy, on April 12, 2024 at 7:28 PM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Only you can make that decision for yourselves as a couple. Just keep in mind that it takes the average couple 3-6 months to conceive, so even if you start right away, you may not even be pregnant until after your wedding. Some couples even longer.
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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece ·
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    I think it just depends on whether you want to be pregnant at your wedding 🤷🏼‍♀️
    Some people have a certain vision for their wedding, and being pregnant wouldn’t be ideal. For example, a lot of brides want to celebrate at the reception with alcoholic beverages; which of course wouldn’t be possible if you were pregnant. For some brides, it’s important to wear their dream dress; which may not be possible if pregnant. You also have to consider each pregnancy is different, and you may experience things such as swelling, intense nausea, headaches, acne, etc. which could impact the way you feel and/or look on your wedding day. I would just think about whether you want to potentially contend with those things on your big day. If not, I would put off trying for a baby until the honeymoon.
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    CM ·
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    In your place, I'd get married now, possibly with immediate family in attendance, and have the delayed reception in five months. Having the obligations and benefits of being married before getting pregnant would have been important to me. Only you can decide what's right for you, though.

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  • Heather
    Dedicated October 2024
    Heather ·
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    If family's the goal and the wedding's in five months, I say get to it. Yes there might be some bump if you're lucky tonight, but there are certain dresses that mask it more: or accentuate it more, if that's also your thing!

    As someone also around your age and wanting to be a mother, time is of the essence. Ultimately this is a decision for you and your FH but if you want an outside opinion from a future bride who's staring down her biological clock as well, get to that baby making! Smiley heart

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  • Andrea
    Just Said Yes June 2025
    Andrea ·
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    If you really want to, then you should do it.

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  • LM
    Super December 2022
    LM ·
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    The other posters have good points. Another item to consider is shopping for the best health insurance. Marriage would be a qualifying life event for which you could change health insurance plans outside of the open enrollment period. Should pregnancy happen before marriage, know that many insurances consider pregnancy a preexisting condition when signing up for new insurance. You may want to determine if this will penalize you in any way. Best wishes.

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    Amy ·
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    I would personally wait, unless you are ok being pregnant for your wedding. Five months isn't that far away. When I was pregnant with my first, I was so sick that I lost a bunch of weight. I had to be hospitalized a few times for fluids because I was so dehydrated. I stayed in bed most of the time because if I moved, I was sick. It was definitely not the experience that I was hoping for being pregnant. I would not have enjoyed planning a wedding nor walking down the aisle with as sick as I was.

    Now, you may have a completely easy pregnancy & breeze through, but you never know how it will go.

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