Should i agree?

Have you told your fiancé that it makes you uncomfortable that he wants to invite her? If you really feel that way, he should be respectful of that. How long ago was this? Are they really close or does she ever hang out around the two of you?

Uh, I'd definitely not invite her. That's a little ridiculous. How long ago was this and what is his good reason as to why she should come to our guys' wedding?

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I didn't want to tell him straight up, but I kinda did in a subtle way, but apparently he didn't get it hahaha. It was at the time we met, we weren't going out yet. They have friends in common, but since a year or so they don't hang out anymore as far as I know, they sometimes chat, pretty general conversations, but that's it. And of course she doesn't hang out with his friends when I'm around, so...

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He says they're friends... but honestly, I don't feel comfortable AT ALL

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Well it doesn't sound like they're close, so I don't understand why he wants to invite her at all. This literally sounds like some random girl he almost had a fling with and barely knows anyways, so why invite her in the first place? Tell him directly that it makes you uncomfortable. He should understand and be respectful of that.

That is kind of weird that is he is adamant about inviting her. Definitely don't invite her!

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Thanks a LOT for the advice!! I really appreciate it

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Yeah I'd say no. Do you feel comfortable marrying him though when he wants some other girl to be there?

And I'd be sorta upset and dumbfounded if my FH wanted to "invite" some woman he used to have a thing for & used to flirt with.
I know there wouldn't be zero communication from him to her even if there supposedly "just friends".

I'm sorry you are going through this. One of my husband's best friends is a female and she was a groomswoman in our wedding. They have known each other for approximately ten years. When they first met he had a crush on her, but she didn't return the feelings. There has been times where I didn't feel comfortable with their relationship. She is a very open person and likes to talk about sex life with my husband which I am not okay with. He has discussed it with her and she has scaled back. My husband also had a crush on another girl that attended our wedding. They have been friends for about 5 years and when he first met her he had a crush on her, but she never had any romantic feelings for him. She is actually really nice and we get along extremely well. She is married and has an adorable baby. She was actually cheering him on to propose like a year before he did. The biggest difference for me is that neither women ever had any romantic feelings for my husband. It sounds like his "friend" of your fiance's had feelings for him at one point if they were flirting with each other. I would definitely not be okay with someone that was interested in my husband at my wedding.

There must be more to the story here.

If my fiancé had a current female friend who he flirted with years ago and maybe even dated, I really don't care. If they are currently friends then I would have no problem with her coming. Honestly, my fiancé grew up in a small town and we have invited lots of his old high school friends (from 10+ years ago- still friends) to our wedding. I'm sure he kissed, flirted, dated one of them in the past.... (not that I asked or care). I think it's irrelevant to our present.
This is all situational though: depends how long ago this was. If it was fresh I can understand the issue... as well as if he was 'in love' with her. But just flirting in the past? Not worth worrying about.

Were they flirting when you two were together. If not, you can hold or her to what happened before you. At the end of the day he chose to marry you. Quite frankly it comes down to whether you trust him or not. If she hasn't been disrespectful to you or relationship I dont think you can have a legitimate reason to feel any way. As adults we must not allow our insecurities to rise to the surface when nothing has warranted that reaction. Think higher of your soon to be husband and be confident that you're his choice, not someone that flirted with him.

I noticed in a further post you said you told him in a subtle way...I have been told many times by my FH and other men that subtle DOES NOT work with them. Haha. I would be outright honest with him about how it makes you feel, but not mean.

Girl no! It’s your wedding and if you don’t want somewhere there, don’t invite them and your partner should understand.

I would sit down and discuss your feelings with your FH. In my opinion, I would throw a temper and yell
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But thats not mature lol. (Jersey temper)


Marraige is communicating and having trust.
Dont fly off the handle. Sit him down and do "I statements"
Tell him your emotions. Communicate and trust.
He didnt flirt with her while he was with you right?????

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View Quoted Comment Your gifs crack me up every time 😂 but I 100% agree with you!

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I'm glad I can make somebody 😂😂😂

In my opinion, if you’re marrying someone and you’re not comfortable flat out saying, “no that’s not okay”, maybe you should rethink that. He shouldn’t even be thinking she should be invited. It’s YOUR day too, would you want your special day ruined by a girl that you fiancé used to have feelings for around the time he met you? I think you should just flat out tell him how you fee. Maybe try to reverse it as if you were bringing a male who made him uncomfortable. It goes both ways

I personally wouldn’t be okay with this, but may allow it depending on how important it was to my FH.