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Yes, I would do exactly that. Especially after your wedding, knowing that she creeped people out. There's really no reason for you to be friends with her on social media, since you don't even like her.

You can still be cordial if you ever run in to her, or she is present in a group setting of friends. That just makes you polite. It doesn't mean you have to be actual friends with her.

If weddings said and done I would delete her. You don’t have to be friends with your husbands friends girlfriend for them to remain friends.

I would delete her. If you don’t like her then there’s no point in having her on Facebook.

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Thank you for the advice. I have been trying my best to be cordial and keep the peace. But I can't take it anymore. I Want nothing to do with her.

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Thank you! I have been battling back and forth on what to do about this. I have been trying to be cordial and keep the peace but enough is enough!

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Thank you! I just hope it doesn't mess up the friendship that my husband has with his friend.

No contact is the only way to go.

Agree with everyone else. There is absolutely no reason to continue being friends with her on social media. You really don't need that kind of negative energy pointed your way!

Congratulations on the wedding!

Completely cut off. Tell your husband his friend does not get priority over your comfort and well being.

I would delete Crazy Cathy over there as soon as possible!

Yup. It’s so over. 👍

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Thank you Kathy!!!

Yes, cut her off. No mixed messages, being her friend on Facebook when you clearly don't like her. Other people who have her on friend's lists are actually people saying, I consider you a friend, so she is not out of line at all in asking them to go out for a drink, or do something together. That is not stealing your friends, nor is it stalking. And those people are wring to just avoid her, that is mean. Those people should politely respond, telling her or messaging her, that although you are friendly in the same group of friends, they do not want to become personal friends and go out together. Just dodging her is rude. Polite people who do give her access to their pages by identifying her as a friend do not need to get close, but should not hide or avoid her, without explanation, either. She may just be lonely, and have poor social skills, and deserves 2 minutes it takes to be polite if she has made the effort to invite someone out, even saying no, thank you, not interested is nicer than rudely ducking her. Don't worry about her stealing your friends. Your other friends will be friends with other people, or not, their choice. But you do not own them, and no one can steal them. Worry less. 🙂 But it is especially important to send a consistent message, so taking her off your friend's lists is fine. It is not a hateful thing, or a declaration of war. It just says, there are things I post or I talk about only with a circle of my closest friends and family. There is no problem with not being everyone's closest friend.

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I friend who she asked out for drinks is not on her friends list. And she had only met my friend once and stalked her on fb.

I would definitely delete her and have the friends she creeped out Block her

I would cut contact and unfriend her. I had a similar situation actually with one of my FH's friends. I kind of initiated the choice that I refused to let him back in my life after he encouraged the break FH & I had a few years ago now. He also did my FH dirty as a friend saying he'd be his best man and blah blah but then didn't even have him in his wedding party. We also don't get along with this person's friend circle any longer. I refused to go to this person's wedding. My FH still went cuz the guy claimed that he'd make it right and be in our lives. His wife cried about how I didn't go and wished things were different cuz she liked me. Welp too bad. Nothing changed, he never put in effort. I cut him off first then FH basically did since nothing was ever fixed or reciprocated. I would also encourage your friends to block her if they don't want contact from her.

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Angelena: Thank you so much for the advice. It was truly been a long time coming putting up with this crazy women. She is so Jealous, Envious, Spiteful and Insecure. For some reason she sees me as a threat and does not want to see me happy and wants to control how other's see me. It's absolutely insane. I can no longer be cordial with this women she is no friend of mine. It's really sad because her boyfriend is a very nice person and decent human being.

View Quoted Comment I misunderstood, and assumed she was on that friend's ( of yours) Friend list.
Poor judgement or social skills are reason enough, I still think, for you and others to delete her from Friend lists. And if asked, say that you are only open to people closer to you than she is, though it is not that you dislike her, just limiting your list to people you know better and confide in.
. . . And I still think most of your circle of friends know you for the good person you are. And you do not need to worry about her stealing your friends. Spending any time with her is not going to cut you out. Not like possessions, where if one person takes or gets something, it is taken away from you. You need to boost your estimate of your worth to your friends. Knowing you, they will not " be stolen away " from you. They will still have the same affection for you, regardless of what stunts this woman pulls. 🙂. . And you are fine, turning her down/ cutting her from Facebook list, in terms of her boyfriend. He cannot be unaware that she goes too far.

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Well this women is a Cover Narcissist and tough to deal with. She has been causing lots f problems and I just had enough already.

First of all, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I have been in a somewhat similar situation where i had to tolerate a girl because she was marrying my FH's best friend. It's such a difficult situation because you don't wanna be the bad guy but it's toxic to be around this person.

Everyone at your wedding probably saw through her pettiness so don't stress that. Delete her on FB if that will bring you more peace. You NEVER need to keep someone in your life that is toxic and causes you stress.

Good luck with things going forward