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Sylvana
Devoted August 2021

Second time around! What's your timeline to finalize your guest list?

Sylvana, on January 2, 2021 at 1:42 PM Posted in Planning 0 6
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Like many other brides in 2020, we postponed our larger reception and married in a private ceremony on our original wedding date.
We are getting "married" (ie. renewing our vows, having our larger reception) on August 7th, 2021.

I put wedding planning on hold for a while because it had just become too much with trying to navigate around the pandemic and life in general. Now that we're in 2021, I'm trying to get an idea on timing.
We had planned on 90 people but the venue holds 120 if I remember correctly and I believe NJ isn't even open for indoor dining/events right now (please correct me if I'm wrong!). The thought of planning for multiple scenarios makes me cringe and I refuse to do it. If we scale back the wedding, we'll need to rework contracts with our venue and transportation company. I'm thinking 6 months before our date is the probably the time to decide so we can get to work on designing our invites, favors, etc.


How long is everyone waiting before deciding to scale back your already postponed wedding? Postponing again is not an option for us.

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Latest activity by Monica, on January 2, 2021 at 4:17 PM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa Online ·
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    I would suggest checking to see where things are around 2 months before your wedding. Start thinking of what your backup plan will be in case you need to downsize your guest list later on and also work with your vendors to decide on the backup plan, but since restrictions have plenty of time to change between now and August, I wouldn't make any major decisions until around May or June.
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    Master July 2019
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    Unfortunately, given how up in the air things are, I don't know if there's any option other than planning for multiple scenarios. The alternative is scrambling at the last minute in the event you do need to make changes.
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  • Sylvana
    Devoted August 2021
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    We were thinking we should decide whether we were going to scale back the wedding by mid February. If we scaled it back it would be around 30 people in a room intended for 120. We could scale as bar back as 21 people.


    Ideally I want to avoid planning multiple weddings. I already did that when we got married this past August lol 😆
    I'd like to decide early whether we should just go smaller so I know what I'm planning. We don't see how the world will reopen safely in 7 months so I honestly don't expect to be able to have the original wedding we'd planned. Or am I being insane?
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  • N
    Expert June 2021
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    I get married this June, my fiancé and I made the decision to scale back in September we cut from 80 to 46. We just wanted to have a finalized guest list so we could send out save the dates. Downsizing and wrapping our heads around changing our original vision of the wedding was hard at first so hard. But now that we finally did, we are so happy and feel like we can breathe easy and are excited for our wedding. We’re constantly working on safety plans for hair and makeup and transportation and at the wedding. And we are as transparent as possible with our guests about our precautions and that the list can be trimmed if regulations change.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    I already decided to scale back about 7 months out of my wedding date.
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  • Monica
    Devoted August 2021
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    We are having our wedding 2.0 on August 6th 2021 but got married Aug 7 2020 so I like your date ☺️ I totally get wanting to get ahead of things and rework contracts and things but unfortunately I learned last year that things can change very quickly in terms of restrictions! I think personally we are going to wait until May or June to downsize or make changes if we need to. I think it's okay if you start thinking about a Plan B (or Plan G I think we got to last year 🤦‍♀️) but I wouldn't make any solid changes until closer to your date.
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