Second guessing, again

Let’s see the pic!

View Quoted Comment This is the dress

We tried doing different things with the sleeves because I wasnt sure about them


And the back

It's a beautiful dress and you look great! However, if you keep being unsure, I would maybe try a few more silhouettes before committing given you've already had dress regret from 1 purchase.

I love the dress and it looks great on your body. I would add a belt and the criss cross back is pretty!i do like the sleeves as well, I would let them fall as on first pic.at the end of the day, you need to feel like you have found what you have been dreaming of.I say if the dress gives you doubts, maybe the third time is a charm?

I think I’m just over thinking. I’ve tried on about 15 dresses and hated all but this one. I haven’t seen anything else I like at David’s. Again. Probably overthinking smh everything I like is about 1,000 OVER budget lol

It does kind of sound like you should try on other styles. But man those gowns are gorgeous on you and it does look so good. It could also be dress envy! Sometimes I used to see other gowns and think man THOSE are gorgeous but I would love my own gown too

Girl, that dress looks beautiful and you look beautiful in it! Especially with the little sleeves, I think that dresses it up just the right amount.

Whenever you find yourself having doubts, just remember you chose it for a reason! Trust yourself, you made a good choice.

I also think it's a good idea to kind of shut down the possibility of even getting another dress. Like just tell yourself it's over, this is your dress, and make your peace with it. I tend to overthink like this with a lot of aspects (and I did a ton with most wedding-related things) but I actually never felt dress regret. I think because my mom bought my dress for me, and spent a good chunk of money on it, and there was no WAY I could ever go to her and tell her "never mind I don't actually want it" so the thought of even considering another dress never even entered my mind, because it simply was not an option.

So my point is, try to just tell yourself another dress is not an option. That should help you stop overthinking!

Doubts are a tough thing to decipher, that being said, my dress made me cry and feel like a bride, like choosing to say yes to my fiancee, I never once doubted either.


I did doubt my veil. First pick was a fingertip length, I kept feeling something was off. Lots of people told me it looked great, was perfect etc. And it looked "fine" but, my gut told me I could look and feel more like the bride I wanted to be.
Went back, tried on a Cathedral train and instantly, the doubts went away. I think when it's right, we know. You may actually have doubts for a reason. Honestly, you look amazing and that's a beautiful dress on you! The thing is, you have to feel it in your heart and soul, your opinion is the one that counts, because when you feel it...it will radiate from the inside out and nothing will change your mind.
Good luck! Congratulations! Hugs to you!

So dresses on models who are 7ft tall versus reality really took me for a spin. I’m 5’2 and all my dresses I tried were awkward. So I did some research to see what styles are nice looking in shorter brides. I didn’t like any recommendations. I kept going back to one dress - it’s an off shoulder fitted bodice with detail. I liked how my body felt in it which was important because I felt other dresses just made me look grumpy and added 20 lbs to my frame. After almost 80 dresses I said yes to the dress. It was a little over budget but I’m now happy with my selection months later. A sign the dress may be the one is you keep going back to it. Once you pick one, focus on other elements of the wedding as there is so much more to do! Another thing I’ve been trying to do is get in better shape. Though hard, I realized how I felt about myself was a direct reflection on how I felt about my dress and really any other outfit I tried on. It may be less about the dress and more about how your feeling inside. Take a small break and Work on the inside for a little then go back and try more styles! If you come back to this one she’s the one! Either way you will look gorgeous! Remember your hair, make up etc all contribute to the beauty of the dress! Good luck xx

It sounds like no matter how much you love a dress, you won't be at peace until you try more silhouettes on. Go back, tell a consultant exactly what you're thinking.

The dress looks so amazing on you!!! Seriously it looks like it fits perfectly


I totally understand though. I’m going thru the same second guessing with my dress! My wedding is scheduled for September and I’m now booking more fittings for other dresses🤷‍♀️. In the end, you want to be comfortable and happy in it on your wedding day ... if it gives you peace of mind go try on a few more...and maybe bring some friends to either talk you off/on the ledge !

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I agree, you may find you love it after a few other dresses of find something where you hadn't searched.

This is a beautiful dress! I would go try on some other silhouettes and see what you think then, but that dress is gorgeous on you!

View Quoted Comment I’m 5’ 2” as well and gaining a few pounds during this lockdown doesn’t help much lol
I’m sure seeing the dress while I’m wearing a mask doesn’t let me see the whole picture. I second guess basically everything in my life so second guessing a wedding dress is unfortunately normal to my everyday life. I’ve been thinking of going back to the gym once things open to get back to my “normal” weight. My poor jeans and shorts don’t even fit! I just don’t think overall I’m happy with the way my body changed over the last two months. Because since I can remember I have always wanted a semi fitted dress, an open back and spaghetti straps and I don’t want to change what I want because of my current body. I was looking into adding an overlay maybe but don’t know, I don’t much to be a puff back hahaha And to be honest there nothing in my budget at David’s that’s I’m in LOVE with like this dress. I tried on about 15 dresses and hated them all. I think loosing a few pounds will help me so that will be my goal!! 💪🏼

The dress looks good on you. However, I would ask myself the following questions:
1) What look are you going for and/or does your wedding have a certain feel? Boho? Vintage? Modern? Simplistic? Formal? Sexy? Then look thru those styles
2) Do you feel you have any body insecurities that you are looking to hide a bit? For example...When I tried on strapless dresses I felt naked because I don't really like my arms. So I chose to show a little shoulder and I'm going for an off shoulder dress.
3) what things did you initially like about the dress and what did you end up hating when you got home? Was it that the sales associate originally pumped you up at the store and it wasn't what you really wanted? Was is someone you tried the dress in for that made you doubt yourself? Or did you have your heart on a particular dress and for whatever reason you were not able to get it?
Think about these things honestly and don't 2nd guess yourself once you have made your mind up to how you want to look and feel on your special day! You are gorgeous and anything you choose to wear will look incredible on you! XOXO

I felt the same about my dress. I loved it at first and a few days later I started looking at pictures that were taken when I tried it on and I really started to dislike it... I loved the back of the dress but wasn't a huge fan of the front of it. I ended up sticking with my choice and I love my dress now. I just had my first fitting and before I went in I did my hair and makeup really nice - similar to what I will do on our wedding day. Now I look at the new pictures with hair and makeup and I love the whole dress. If you really really don't like the dress consider styling your hair in a different way or in a style you are considering for your big day and go try the dress on again in store. Also keep in mind the dresses in store have been tried on several times by many different body shapes so they are stretched weird. Also keep in mind the dress will fit MUCH nicer once you have it altered - hugging your curves in all the right places. Make sure you have on the ideal bra/underwear and/or shapeware - this will make a huge difference too! Hope this helps

I would go with what your gut tells you- but I also would go with what fits the style of your wedding as well! For me, the sleeves would good for a rustic/barn feel kind of wedding, while without the sleeves would feel more romantic, etc. I am so indecisive as well and it’s so annoying, but it’s YOUR dress so if you have to return 12 of them until you find the one you love then so be it!

You look beautiful !! Eitherway, you’ll look great in anything. If I had to give my opinion, the spaghetti strap is stunning! Good luck with your decision.

View Quoted Comment Yep ! I hear you on the decision part! Work on the inside and the rest will follow. If you’re super concern about some areas I think the straps will work out. You can always add a corset too if you like. The options are endless. But if you keep going back to this one dress then it’s the one.
Also- don’t wait for gyms to open go on walks, try to eat better make small changes towards your goal. But overall whether you meet your goal or not you will be a stunning bride . Sending you the best wishes !!

I walk at least 2 miles everyday and once a week I take a 25 mile bike ride. I also have been in the process of switching over to plant based so hopefully that helps a little.
My moms paying for my dress and every dress I want is completely out of budget by a lot.
I have been looking into shape wear as well.