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Stacey
Super May 2021

Save the Dates

Stacey, on August 6, 2020 at 8:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
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Do you normally address these just to the person you are inviting, or should you also include their guest's name or Plus One so they know they can bring a guest? Or do you wait until the actual invitation to indicate the Plus One? For example, if I am inviting Mary, and her boyfriend is John, do I address the STD to Mary or to Mary & John (even though John will only be invited as long as he remains Mary's boyfriend, Lol). Not sure if there is a right protocol here?

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Latest activity by Hanna, on August 6, 2020 at 11:30 PM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    If you are inviting a couple, then I would address it to both individuals. If you are going to be allowing for a plus one (meaning the person is not in a relationship and will be able to bring a guest of their choosing), then I would just write the individual's name for the save the date. The invitation would be sent to Mary and guest.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I agree with all of this, unless you’re having a destination wedding or the guest will be traveling in for the event. That way they know in advance to make accommodations for their plus one.
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    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    You address it to all invited guests by name. Mary and John are married or living together so their names are both listed.


    Plus ones are always optional. They do not apply to married or dating couples.
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  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    Thank you all for the advice! That was my original thought when I put the couple's names in my template, but then I started waaay overthinking it, haha. Appreciate the input!

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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    The names of married and dating couples I put on there. Even if they are single, I still put "and guest" so I don't get bombarded with "can I bring someone?". Married couples and singles with kids I put their name and under that I wrote out the names of their child(ren) under 18 so I also don't get bombarded with "are kids allowed?". I honestly feel like it's personal preference.

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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    We addressed everybody by name for save the dates

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