Save the dates then not invited?

P.s. just sent the gift in the mail today. No point in returning it out of spite. It was just a nice kitchen/baking set

That seems really weird. Either 1) you're not invited to the wedding or 2) you are and something happened to your invitation. Maybe ask them, though it might be too late.

That is super rude!! I definitely wouldn't have sent the gift. I probably would've asked them too and framed it as making sure it wasn't lost in the mail but I'm a petty bitch so...

Yes. This is really rude. I don;t think you should be getting them a gift. Even if the invite got lost in the mail they should have called you when they didn't get your RSVP.

I did ask and I got no response. So I'm guessing they just kind of uninvited us lol

Yes - They should have sent you an invite since they sent a STD.

That's incredibly rude and I'm sorry they did that to you.

Wow Emily, I'm sorry they did that. It's super rude!

Maybe something happened to the invitation? Although... I would think she'd call you to see why you haven't RSVP'd. If she did go the tacky route and send you an STD, but not invite you to the wedding... I would call her and ask why- just to hear her struggle through that awkward situation lol

Horribly rude . You're a nicer person than me because i wouldn't have sent them a gift after being sent a STD and then not being invited after all.

Lol beachbride! I definitely wanted to. But I didn't want to let any negativity into my life. I've been watching a lot of Frozen with my niece lately so I'm singing "Let It Go!" all around the house

Very rude! Everyone who is on your STD list also gets and invitation. You can add to the list, but never subtract once you've sent out STD.

Don't send that gift! Keep it or return it. F them!

ETA: at least you have a good attitude about it.

Thanks brides! Just wanted to make sure I sent out the STDs and invites correctly

Oh wow! well they will feel like ASSES when they receive your gift.

Wow. I honestly can't believe the audacity of people sometimes...yes, that is rude. Good for you for being the bigger person, but I'd be calling them out on their behavior after the wedding if they expect you to still be friends.

Kill em with kindness lol. And nope, rudeness if something I can't tolerate. Maybe my gift can be a "farewell" gift

I definitely wouldn't invite them to yours!! But that's just me...I am also petty when the need arises.

Yeah they are off of my list. They were best friends or extremely close. But we know each other well enough to be polite!

You were the better person and sent them a gift anyway. You've got class. That they did not follow up after RSVP's would lead one to expect they didn't send you an invitation. Unless they chose to assume no response means a decline. I would let it go instead of shining light on it to their embarrassment.