Save the date etiquette, following loss

You could wait until October/November to send them, or you can use the pictures & send out holiday cards 🥰

I think sending them in November is a great idea. Also it could make people feel better because they’re getting together for a happy occasion instead of mourning.

1 I'm sorry for your loss prayers for your family and just wait 1week I'm sure that they understand but speak with you FH first and get his thoughts before sending

I would still send them out. Maybe wait until mid-October to give people time to grieve and return to their daily lives. In the end, life must go on. And your loved ones already know you are getting married, so receiving a STD will not come as a surprise.

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Healing light heading your way!

We are wedding twins!!I say invite only. I personally believe that save the dates are a waste of money.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, Melissa. This is definitely the way I am leaving. Only 190 more days!

View Quoted Comment It seems so close and so far away at the same time!!

View Quoted Comment Thanks, Monique. The problem I think we will have is that we’ve now had to cancel our engagement photos (we were supposed to do them today). I guess a lot will depend on when we can do those now. I so, so much appreciate the prayers.

View Quoted Comment Yes, life must go on but when it’s the father of the groom it makes it very tough. Our wedding day will be bittersweet as we have both lost our fathers, so we will be missing two that we loved dearly.

I am so sorry for your loss, and for your FH's loss.

I think STDs are a waste in most situations.

When they are definitely necessary:
1. It's a destination wedding and everyone is traveling.
2. 50% or more of the guests are OOT and will have to travel.
3. It's on a holiday weekend.
4. It takes place during some other high-demand time for the location where it is taking place (such as Mardi Gras in New Orleans, Bike Week in Daytona, etc.)

If none of these apply, you may just skip STDs altogether.

If one or more applies, wait until November or December. 4 months is still plenty of time for people to make appropriate arrangements.

My condolences. This had to be tough for you FH and for you. Take it a day at a time and see how you feel when you actually do the engagement session. You can always use the photos on a wedding website and for your invitations. I think invitations only are fine. Btw I'm getting married March 19 too!

View Quoted Comment You are so welcome and you can do them when you can we forgoed our engagement photos. So many things just be happening lately for alot of us because of losses and other traumatic events. And yes still sending more prayers for your families healing

I’m so so sorry. In the midst of wedding planning my MIL passed away 2 weeks prior to our minimony but it was her wish for us to go through with the wedding as planned. It was hard but it was uplifting for everyone at the same time. I would feel it out based on your families response to your FIL’s passing.