Save the date addressing

I included SO’s names on STDs. It made it clear they were invited and you have to find out their names anyway. Although, I really don’t think it’s a big deal and people won’t look into that much. They are just STDs and will get thrown out so don’t stress!

I included all names of significant others on save the dates. I had to ask for a few name clarifications before addressing them, because there were a few people who I knew were in a relationship but I wasn't 100% sure on the names + spelling of the names. If you already sent your save the dates but forgot to include the other half of the couple, then I'd reach out to those people individually to assure them that their spouses/boyfriends/girlfriends will still be invited.

I included everyone’s names on stds but if I didn’t know the names I just put & partner. Or mr & Mrs.

I would just contact the people and ask. It seems odd that you're inviting people to your wedding who's names you don't know.

I included SO's on our STD and invitations. If you don't know their name, just ask.

You'd include their names on both the STD and the invitations.

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Agree with this. They will appreciate you asking.

View Quoted Comment We're close with only one of them, most in this scenario I at least know a first name of their S/O, but that doesn't necessarily help when addressing envelopes or writing out table assignments.

And etiquette dictates those in long term relationships or marriages are a social unit and you invite both.

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So you ask the significant other you know what their full name is.

And to add to this, what about an invitee/ wedding party member that you're giving a plus one. They're not in a relationship, but wouldn't know anyone else there besides me. Gave her the plus 1 option to bring a "date" so she'll at least have someone there to converse with. Would you put and guest on the STD?

Follow up with a phone call to confirm that it is the two of them who are invited. I’m sure no one is upset the name was missing, but the clarification will be a comfort. And be sure to ask while you’re on the phone and write it down somewhere for thank you notes!

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Understood - then best course of action is just ask the one your close to. If you feel odd asking their partners name or something you can just ask to "clarify spelling".

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In the case of a single guest and a plus one, then yes I would address the STD and invite to "Jane Doe & guest".

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On the save the date, you can add "and guest" to the envelope since there isn't a specific person to invite because they aren't in a relationship. Then when you are working on tent cards for table assignments after rsvps come in, ask the bridesmaid if she invited a date and if so what is their name?