Sadness about leaving parents home after the wedding

I drug my feet about moving into our house when we bought it. I couldn't move in til this, couldn't move in til that. Finally we had a bed, and i couldn't come up with excuses anymore. It's been 10 months since we bought the house, and I still go over to my parents once a month to just hang out and relax.

View Quoted Comment Have you found that your relationship with your parents have changed?

View Quoted Comment Not really. But I'm in my 30s. Our relationship evolved a lot in the last 7 years of me moving back in after I finished college.

I still visit my parents quite often! I have weekly dinners with them and stuff

I’m not married yet and bought my house four years ago but I did feel that way at first. It took a few weeks to adjust but I was happy having my own space and we go every weekend for dinner.

For me and my fiance, we had 0 sadness leaving our parents home as we had varying circumstances that caused us to leave. We were elated to start our relationship off by living together. We've lived together for over 7 years now.

I understand everyone's circumstances differ, however, my FH and I felt as though we needed to live together before we could take the next step of forever. We've been living together for a little over 3 years and have been engaged for 14 months. Initially when I moved away from my parents, I missed them so much and felt so guilty about not being around. I was back & fourth pretty much every other day but as time went on, my life became busier. I fell deeper in love with my FH & our dog; I never wanted to leave them. I had to set aside time to take care of my home, run errands, meal prep, do laundry etc. My mom explained to me that this is the part of life they (my parents) have been preparing us for.

My suggestion for you would be to plan at least one day a week that you can get over to be with them; have dinner, watch a movie, play a game, or just sit around and talk. Plan a monthly activity with them; go out to dinner, shop for your wedding, your new home etc. Hang in there, the sadness will subside with some time!

It's healthy to be afraid of change! I graduated from college about a year ago and I found myself consistently making these excuses when it was time for me to move out of my house. I had been living with three other girls and it had become the norm to have Bachelor and wine Mondays, share each others clothes, and gossip after school/work. It was tough knowing I was moving to a new city that I didn't know a soul in and would be sharing a home with someone that is gone as much as he's home. BUT I did and it's been wonderful You can still make time for your parents as often as you want. Now you just have a little more space and the chance to build a home with your husband!

I understand! I'm 22 and getting married next month. I'm the oldest of 4 kids in my family, so first to get married. I'm still living at home til the wedding. I'm super nervous about the transition of moving out. Some days I'm so ready to move out, some days I'm scared of leaving. It doesn't help that 2 months after my wedding my family is moving overseas to Germany! So as much as family can get on my nerves occasionally, I'm trying to soak up family time now.

Getting ready for the transition has been challenging as far as my relationship with my parents. Especially with my mom, we've had a few hard/emotional talks. She's been struggling with letting go of her first baby. Figuring out how to transition from a daughter that needs and depends on her to a new wife and a woman taking care of her own husband and household is challenging.

I honestly thought leaving my parents house would be the worst thing to ever happen to me. But if it weren't for my dad basically forcing me to leave to go to college, life would be so different. Before I met my FH, I always thought I would move back in with my parents after college. It wasn't until our senior year when I decided that it wouldn't be in my best interest to do so. Even though I live two hours away (still in our college town), I still see my parents often. Plus, we kept our standing FaceTime dates after I graduated. It was different officially being on my own (with FH), but such a refreshing feeling.

I can't really relate to this, I went off to college in 2012 and hadn't lived with my parents since (got married in 2019). And my husband lived on his own for 10 years prior to us getting married. But we still have normal relationships with our parents and see them all the time.

My FH and I already live together and I was very ready to move out as soon as I could but my FH is VERY close with his parents. We live 3 minutes from his parents and visit at least once a week. He also has almost daily phone calls with them. Moving out didn't change his relationship with his parents. It just makes time with them more special. I'm thankful that his parents/family are very nice and loving.

I definitely relate! I've lived at home to save money since I graduated college in 2015. I'm extremely close with my parents and my twin sister, so I have mixed feelings about leaving them, but I know that I will be so happy with my FH!

Thank you for being open and honest. For a moment, I thought I was then only one who felt this way. This past weekend my Mom downsized her home and reality set in really fast that within a few months I’ll be moving out! I was so terrified to express this with my fiancé simply because he’s so excited. And while I am too, it’s a big transition and very scary! She’s been with me every step of the way, from big moments and sad ones, my Mom was always there with open arms. On top of it, I’m the baby of the family and in your parents eyes you never grow up.....LOL! I’m glad I found this as it has made me smile knowing this is normal and everything will be ok. Praying that everything works out for the best with you ladies! We’ve got this!

Well I’m not marry but I’m pregnant it’s sad leaving my home I’m the only child and it hurts to move out of my house that which my boyfriend and his mother had made rude comments about visiting my own parents I’m just stuck in the middle.

View Quoted Comment Hi Tiffany! I know you wrote this a few years ago… I am currently 22 and am getting married this coming September. Much of your situation aligns with mine currently. Although my fiancé and I are the ones moving out of state and eventually possibly out of country since he will be a pilot in the Air Force…. I am really struggling with the transition phase and feeling guilty for leaving my family…. There is a lot of health/medical needs from my family and I am the (youngest) and first of my family to get married. This is all new to me and I am scared of the change that will come once I am married and no longer at home….


If you have any advice or words of support/encouragement for how you are doing now and what it was like for you I would love to hear…. Thanks!

View Quoted Comment Hi Kaysi! Thanks for reaching out. I’ll send you a private message if that’s okay it’ll be easier that way probably

View Quoted Comment Hey I'm feeling the same way having some of the same issues would you mind a message me how you dealt with it please

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Hi Tiffany,

I would also love to hear your advice and words of encouragement as well! I am about to get married and have lived at home my whole life. I am so glad im not alone in this!