Romance Without Finance Is a Nuisance?

Agree. I mean sure there are ways you obviously can enjoy one another for free aha and you can both build towards a healthier financial stance. But it's definitely hard on your relationship when there's a lot of financial strife.

I've never heard that phrase (it's actually kinda an odd one....) but of course having financial issues would affect any relationship in which you are financially linked (marriage, business partner, sometimes parents, etc).

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Do you think your marriage could survive financial problems?

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I had a co-worker who would always say it in reference to her relationship. I recently looked it up and there are a few books and articles on the topic. Do you think your marriage could survive financial problems?

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Thanks for sharing.

I think a marriage can survive financial problems as long as both parties are willing to work on the problems. I don’t think a marriage can survive one or both parties being irresponsible financially or having different spending habits and being unwilling to work on conflict areas or compromise.

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I completely agree. Many marriage vows say "...for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health..." Therefore I don't think a marriage should immediately end for financial problems, Instead, the couple must handle it together to help the marriage to survive.

I've never heard it. But I think a genuine relationship should Outlast financial problems unless it's extreme like gambling or drug addiction. There's also a saying "you can't buy happiness" 😉

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I love this perspective

It depends on the people. When FH and I first got together we were in a bad financial state; I was too sick to work and he had a knee injury that prevented him from working long shifts. He was working part-time NY minimum wage (which was still $11/$12 at that time) We definitely struggled with Bills and food and everything else. We hardly got to go out on dates that weren't picnics, but we didn't have a lot of stress between us. Now it's been almost two years and we both are in stable jobs with really good salary.
My bestfriend on the other hand works minimum wage (now $15) and so does her boyfriend and they are ALWAYS fighting about money. So it really depends on the people in the relationship.

View Quoted Comment I agree, I’m not promising to love my FH only when things are going well, I’m promising to love him and stand by his side through the good and the bad.

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My husband and I have also been through our financial troubles but our love for one another kept us together.

View Quoted Comment 👏 Exactly!

View Quoted Comment Exactly. I believe that if the love is true and genuine, then it can conquer everything,even financial issues.

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Long live love!

Yes, I agree. Couples need to be upfront with each other about everything, especially finances. Before you get married you should have a plan and both be on the same page. You can even test yourselves out prior to just to ease your way into things before marriage.

Money causes so many problems on its own. Don't let bad communication, organization, and planning make it worse.

Though...if you love someone you'd find a way to work through it. Which doesn't mean dealing with their crap, it means couple financial counseling if necessary.

Just my two cents.

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Thank you for sharing your perspective.