Registry wording

My planner suggested i just add the cash fund request after the bridal shower or remove the registry after the shower ? what do you guys think
has anyone else done this? should i just include my registry in my bridal shower invitations? and on my website include the request for cash funds

A lot of people find it very tacky to ask for money, and as a bride who just wants money...I hate it lol.

I added limited items to my registry because I simply don't want a lot of physical items. I got enough to where the guests to my bridal shower can purchase 1 if they so desire. I also have a Honeymoon Fund available. Guests will either get me nothing once my physical registry is completed, or they'll donate if you want to. But I'm leaving my physical registry up so I don't come off as money-grabby.

It's likely pointing out that you want money wont increase the amount of money you get, but annoy those who were already not inclined to give money. I'd just be subtle with it.

Do people normally give cash as wedding gifts in your social circle? In my area (NY/NJ), it's pretty much the standard that physical gifts are for the shower and cash/check is given for the wedding. Honestly, even if it isn't standard, I still wouldn't do anything special. If people want to give a physical gift, they will give a physical gift. If they want to give cash, they'll give cash. Cash funds charge you a percentage for being the middle man in the transaction, so they aren't really worth it IMO. Whoever is hosting the bridal shower typically includes registry information on the invitation. Mention of gifts shouldn't be included on the wedding invitation.

I guess it depends on what's common in your circle.

Here it's common for the registry to be used for shower gifts and then guests bring card and money to the wedding and nothing needs to be said. That being said, if you don't have a registry most people will default to cash/checks, so you could always just remove the registry after the shower.

It will seem confusing to have a registry for physical items and then have wording that heavily suggests the honeyfund. People know they can gift money. It's always a go to. Plus, those who were not invited to the shower, may distribute the link to others who ask

Also, no matter what you choose, there will be people who do not gift cash and if you don't have a registry you will end up with random items you don't need/want (even if you did, there's still a chance you will get a random item, but it may be less likely).

If you know your guests are more of a physical item gifters, have the registry still up. If they are not, removing the registry would be your best option and just have the link to the honeyfund. You don't need cute poems or reasons to justify the money fund. But be aware, there are still those of different social circles and upbringings that think asking for money is rude.

My fiancé' and I are both getting married for the first time in our mid 40s, so we don't need/want anything, but decided we had to register for stuff because if we didn't, we were going to get stuff we REALLY didn't want. There are always going to be people who just want to buy something and not give cash. So, I would still keep your registry active and make sure there are links to gift cards, honeymoon accounts, etc. People will still give you cash.

Find out what is common in your social circle. Ask the family gossips to spread the word of your registry situation. That is how many social circles have spread the word for countless generations before websites came into existence.

Have a small registry will lower priced items. When gifts on the registry run out, guests should resort to cash

I think it best just to have a registry for a bridal shower listed on the invites for it. We don't want to have the main registry for stuff that close friends and siblings would purchase, like lingerie, stuff for the honeymoon. If someone wants to give something like that later on, then they can find out later by request or by word-of-mouth.

We have a registry through Traveler's Joy for our Honeymoon, which lets you create "gifts" like your flight, hotel room, tickets to x show, etc... and people have LOVED picking out what experiences they're contributing for us. It makes it more personal than giving a dollar amount and not knowing where it will be used.

I also created an Amazon registry just for the bridal shower, since I know some people like to bring physical gifts for showers. It has items like new luggage, a nice picture frame - all Honeymoon related still. I plan to take down that registry once the shower is over in a few weeks.