Real Friends

Yes I found that out and it was very disappointing. Those same friends I still don't speak to and I've been married for 5years. I also found out it was jealousy NC this particular friend at the time she always wanted to be married but it hasn't happen for her . I realized during the process of planning a wed and being married u loose alot of ppl and idont care

Oh, you'll find out a lot about your friends.. your family... people you didn't know you were friends with... Turns out, I'm kicked out of the family over the invitations!

Advice: come here to vent, or to someone you *know* can keep their mouth shut. Don't post on social media. People will take social media posts as a way to judge, opine, and generally insert themselves into your life. I think I made less than 10 posts about my wedding planning on social media, and most of them were vaguebooking. (Like: "Everything went catawampus today." - That was the day I nearly went bridezilla.)

Lost friends and even family due to being rudely opinionated or thinking we shouldn't marry because they got divorced (his father). Gotta love family.

View Quoted Comment My so call friend decided not to be apart of my wedding day because she doesn’t want to spend the money. She literally been in 28 other weddings but when it comes to mine she could no longer do it because all of a sudden she doesn’t have the money to participate due to and the wedding not until next year. She doesn’t want to participate in none of the activities surrounding the wedding nor attend the wedding. I know she wants to be married bad and when it comes to me getting married it’s all of a sudden an issue. She told me she can’t participate and I understood and told her thank you, for letting me know. We never spoke after that . You talking about a person that text me almost every single day before that conversation . Not to mention it’s a destination wedding. She went behind my back asking the destination planner for her down payment back knowing you can’t get that back and told her that she no longer has nothing to do with me or my wedding . I was confused because I’m like we didn’t end wrong I thanked her for letting me know she couldn’t participate and that was it. Never talked to her again because at this point I’m like friends don’t do that. Not to mention I was pregnant during all that. They definitely don’t hurt you while you’re pregnant. I haven’t talk to her and just don’t want to deal with her. To me a friend handles things a lot different considering the fact you’re pregnant and getting ready for a wedding. That’s jealousy of you ask me.

Definitely. I lost my best friend during my wedding planning. Turned out she was talking about my husband and I behind my back to other friends and my own family.

Oh 100%! I feel like weddings are one of the really big things that makes you realize who your friends really are.
Prime example, I was going to have a dear friend of mine be maid of honor. Thankfully I realized before this happened that I would regret it. My friend hasn’t been venomous or vindictive but incredibly jealous and hurtful in her comments to me. For example - she knows neither of us fly because we are terrified, joked that she would get us therapy sessions as a wedding present. Later told her (multiple times) we were going on a cruise for our honeymoon, every time we discussed it she would tell me how much she hates them and would never go on them. Told her I bought a mermaid style dress like I dreamed of, she said she would’ve made me choose a dress that would’ve ‘been more comfortable’. Interestingly despite her expressing that she never wants to get married, from the moment of my engagement she’s been telling me all about her wedding plans if her boyfriend and her got married.
Nothing awful by comparison to other things but just the above has made me tiptoe around her a little and distance myself a little!

View Quoted Comment O yes def jealousy. And same with me. My MOH was my best friend and we would text daily,phone calls almost every other day. I know she had gotten divorced about 2 months before I got engaged (may 2019, got engaged July 2019) and she always had a comment about my wedding or bachelorette party and it was like cant u just be happy for me?!

View Quoted Comment It’s really sad that we go through this on top of other stress we put up with when planning the wedding.

View Quoted Comment She is really jealous of you and it’s sad she can’t be happy for you.

View Quoted Comment That’s not a real friend

View Quoted Comment Yep it should be the happiest moment in our life. I learned my lesson, I wouldn't have a wedding party again. Too much drama

View Quoted Comment That’s too much stress on you when it’s suppose to be one of the happiest days of your life.

View Quoted Comment You do find out about people and it’s sad it’s on a special day.

View Quoted Comment That’s how I feel about my so call friend and I not talking. I really don’t care because people that are for you stick with you no matter what you go through.

View Quoted Comment I said the samething. It’s stressful trying to get other grown people to participate and do what they are suppose to.

View Quoted Comment Mhmm . If anyone is negative and nasty I have no problem letting them go

View Quoted Comment It sounds like both of our friends are! It’s amazing how much jealous this stuff brings out.
My favourite was this friend telling me that she couldn’t wrap her head around a wishing well (in our culture we don’t do physical gifts but are big on monetary gifts, if people want to gift anything) but insists when she gets married that we should travel to a remote, exotic (and expensive) island!
Lol cheers to us for being able to see past it! At least it makes for a cracking story.

View Quoted Comment You sound like me. Life too short to put up with miserable people.

View Quoted Comment Yes. My MIL told me that toxic is toxic. Doesnt matter if its your sister, cousin, grandma etc. If they r toxic and negative and always putting you down then cut them out.

View Quoted Comment It’s time to let people that aren’t for us go. No reason to let a fake friend be in your life to take up space when they’re not really for you.