Prenup advice

It's part of life. Sign what you and your lawyer think is fair and move on. Why would you sign a legally binding marriage contract without looking at it?

I don't think you need to keep any excitement when you're working with your lawyers on tthe prenup. Just like signing mortgage papers isn't the exciting part of buying a house. It's just the business end of some marriages.

I don’t know but the subject of a prenups has never bothered me at all. Oddly I told my husband I would sign one he said it was not necessary but I insisted on signing one anyway. He insisted on singling one as well. I’ve always see. Prenups as being a respectful acknowledgement of a persons acquired resources prior to their life and commitment to you. I’ve never seen it as an expression of distrust or a prediction of divorce but reasonable assurance that if God forbid it came to that you can trust I’m not going to disrespectfully go after resources that weren’t mine prior to marriage.

View Quoted Comment This is a fantastic analogy!

Hi Laura I think that you and him just to be honest with each other and with you guys assets. And just talk to each other without to any pressure one another. Aunt had 1 and I ask her was it hard she said no because ppl are scared of that word prenups. So just know that you both are looking out for your sleeves. Encase of the unforeseen things which neither of you are thinking about. Just talk to each other.

When I think of getting a prenup, I'm reminded that I'm preparing to spend my life with my partner. That makes it somewhat exciting. I agree with others, though, that the legal stuff doesn't have to be exciting.

Legal stuff is never exciting. I wish I could offer advice but we won’t be signing one. We don’t own a house or really much of anything to our names, not much money either. And no kids. Maybe one day we’ll sign a post nuptial

View Quoted Comment That's a good way to think of it, thank you.

Being married for a year now, my advice it to be open with each other, your goals/needs, and go from there. We both are respectful of each other’s earnings and not spending more than we need to. If we know we have a bigger purchase coming up, we talk about it. We have similar spending and saving habits which helps a lot. Overall, be open and know that legal stuff isn’t fun or exciting. In fact, doing taxes for the first time married was the biggest hassle I’ve yet to experience

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much!

Legal stuff is never exciting (and that's coming from a lawyer lol). I've always viewed prenups as a way to say "I'm marrying you because I love you, not because of your money or stuff." I worked in family law for a bit, and I've seen some truly UGLY divorces where people want to take as much as they can from the other person just to be spiteful. Prenups really keep things respectful in the event they're needed, and if it never becomes needed, at least it opened up communication between the two of you about things like finances and whatnot. Have your lawyer review whatever gets put into yours, check it off your list, and then move onto planning something more fun

View Quoted Comment I'm definitely ready to plan something fun

It seems that it can be okay as long as the details appear fair. The other option is that people just keep assets in their name or identified as theirs beforehand so that they have the choice what to do with the assets. But hopefully the goal is more directed to inheritance issues. The thing also in mind is that the courts are usually not fair, so it could help to decide what is fair in case things go wrong.