Postponing

Honestly I'd feel upset too especially if we agreed upon doing something smaller then changing his mind to cancelling it to next year. I would sit down and talk, and ask him what made him change his mind? & how you were looking forward to planning a small scale wedding. See if you can compromise . I know a lot of people use zoom & have a vow renewal a year later.

I am still trying to decide what to do as well for our November wedding.

I feel upset for you. Can there be a compromise? I think you should proceed with your backyard wedding not just for your own emotions but I truly do think we don’t know what’s ahead... and I’m not trying to be a Debbie downer, I hate what’s happening with wedding and I had to postpone my own big day BUT to be honest we don’t even know if 2021 is going to be all cleared.....


Trust YOUR GUT and talk it out. I’m sure his grandmothers would understand if you did a backyard thing because of the fact that we are in a pandemic...

I would be upset with the situation, but not with him. It's a reasonable concern and I think it needs to be a decision you come to together. The situation is very difficult to navigate for everyone. You of course have a right to your feelings, but I'm sure his intentions weren't to hurt you.

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November Brides

I would be upset at situation but not at him. He is probably upset at situation too.


My fiancé is also telling me we might have to cancel our nov wedding too. We don’t want anyone to become sick and have it be our fault for having a wedding party. We are still uncertain what to do but together I think we have decided to just have a few 10 people instead of the 50 ppl invited. We are trying to figure out what to do. I think I am going to send out a postcard to everyone with an update. I am waiting till next month in case things get better but it’s looking more like we are going to have to cancel everything we had planned. It’s a bummer as I started this planning journey over a year and a half ago and a lot of work and thought went I to it. I’ve already had people that rsvp yes decide they can’t come due to covid and I’m sure there’s more since I live in phx one of the the most current hot spots. It sucks!
I hope you two talk and come to s plan you both can live with. He may just be worried about the cost or health of family members but ask him what his thoughts are. Maybe he just wants to have the party you planned so wants to postpone in time to still be able to have that.
I wish we didn’t have to deal with all this. I am telling myself the most important thing is to be married to my best friend overall. It stinks there might not be a wedding or party. It stinks I cannot honeymoon in Hawaii anymore but we will make the most of it. We decided to make an adventure of it and drive to Colorado and Utah and stay and small bed and breakfasts to have time together. We will do something special just for us.