Planning my own Bridal and Wedding Shower as well as Bachelorette Party

Alright, this sounds really sad, but please hear me out. I have 3 people on my side in my wedding party. My sister (V) who is my maid of honor, my best female friend (R), and my best male friend (B). V is in college and is also working almost full time (theater school sound design major) and this will be the 1st big wedding she’s ever really attended as well as been apart of; R is one of the main people who run an organization that helps the soldiers in Ukraine and with that she travels to Ukraine, Lithuania, and DC at the drop of a hat; and B lives out of state from the rest of us and the wedding sight by 4 hrs.


Due to these factors I feel like I can’t ask them to really help or plan things since the only one who knows anything, she planned her own wedding as well as stood up for over 10 others, is constantly traveling and focused on work due to current events. I’m not upset by any means, I’m very type A and enjoy having the control to plan these things myself so that they end up the way I want them to, but I worry that people will see it as sad and pathetic that I had to plan it all on my own. My FMIL, bless her heart, is sweet but we don’t exactly see eye to eye on things and so I don’t feel comfortable asking her, and my own mother is a full time caretaker for her mother and caretaker fatigue is real.
I asked my sister if I could just plan it all and have her take the credit and she said that it was fine with her if it was fine with me (her ideas were the same as mine but she just didn’t know how to go about actually planning it).
So I guess my question is, is this practical/acceptable given the situation or is it just controlling/sad/pathetic?