Planning in Alabama

Alabama bride here. I’m getting married in Huntsville on August 30. Our original date was May 3. I am still going ahead with my wedding. I have my moments in which I feel sad , nervous, anxious but I realized this virus is not going away anytime soon. I just have to remind myself not to be upset when people decline. This far, one of the best men have backed out. And I have a feeling a few more bridesmaids will as well. But that’s okay. The most important people is my parents and my fiancé and other family members being there. I don’t see the state of Alabama shutting down at All. Have you looked in lowering your guest count? Is your venue outside or inside?

View Quoted Comment Hey! Thanks for your reply! I love the Huntsville area by the way. So my guest count is 50. I had 110 people not even reply back to me. Our original date was 4.18.2020. We obviously had to cancel. So my issue is that my family is from Buffalo and they do not want to travel due to the mandated quarantine for 14 days when they get back to NY. But none of them work except 2 But I also think they are scared. But where my venue is located they have had only 29 cases of this virus. My mom is probably not going to attend along with my niece who is a bridesmaid. My brother can’t any longer because him and his wife are expecting and she was advised not to travel. I really don’t want to reschedule....again. Plus, since Alabama did not shut down, I don’t think I’d be getting any refunds back.

Oh and my venue can be either way. I have rented a group lodge and I can do it outside or inside, but have plans to do it inside because I worry about weather.

Oh I totally understand where you coming from. My brother and his wife are expecting, they live out of state and with baby being due in July she is no longer a bridesmaid and is going to stay at home with the baby. My brother is still coming though. It sounds like with 50 guests you should be able to social distance. My fiancé and I also work in the medical field ( he as an RN) so we are quite in tune and aware of severity of this pandemic. We have chose to move on and enhance social distancing and masks requirement for the event. Before Covid we had 100 guests total. I havent started checking in with guests yet post Covid

I’m so sorry your mom won’t be able to make it. Are you going to show the wedding on zoom or Facebook live for those who can’t attend?

View Quoted Comment There is no internet access at my venue so I don’t think that’s an option. Maybe someone can record it for my family. I just do not want to go through the stress of changing my date. As an R.N., I also watch what is going on and the death rate is declining. It’s just all so frustrating.

Hi Sarah! It's such a tough decision, but at least as an R.N. you have a better idea of your local health situation!

Part of me says to go ahead with your plans because you already have a reasonable guest count, and who knows how long social distancing guidelines will be in place! But you also need to think about those guests who wouldn't feel comfortable attending and if that outweighs the hassle of rescheduling.

View Quoted Comment The hassle of rescheduling is so bad that I’d rather not have a wedding lol. I’ve planned this whole thing myself and I’d rather not do it again. I’ve already postponed once.

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That's totally understandable!! Full steam ahead for August 1st!!