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Anna
Beginner October 2022

"Passing gas" around SO

Anna, on February 7, 2022 at 5:47 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 30

So this is definitely TMI, but…how does everyone else deal with, ahem, farting in front of your fiance/husband/SO?

I ask because until recently, I held in my gas when fiance was around (even though he did not). His farts are like whoopee-cushion sound effects but never have much of an odor. A couple times he asked me why I never farted in front of him and told me that I shouldn’t worry about it because he wants me to be totally comfortable around him. The truth is, I was just trying to let him stay comfortable, because my farts are the opposite of his: silent but VERY deadly. Like, pull-your-shirt-over-your-nose-and-run-out-of-the-room deadly. Anyways, in the last few months since we've gotten engaged, I’ve been more casual about letting loose since I figured he should be aware of what he's getting into. Last night we had to open a window and he hit me with the Ron Burgundy “I’m not even mad, that’s amazing!” line. What can I say? Be careful what you wish for!

I feel like it's such a reversal from the usual stereotypes that I'm the one stinking him out. So, I was curious…does anyone else have the “honor” of being the stinky one in their relationship? And whether you do or not (but particularly if you do), how do you deal with it around your partner?

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Latest activity by Darnieka, on March 18, 2022 at 5:20 AM
  • Brenda
    Devoted October 2021
    Brenda ·
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    My husband and I don't even care, we'll let them rip. Noisy, silent, odorless, or nose-burning. Farting is normal, and you can't hold it on for the rest of your life once married
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  • Melinda
    Expert March 2022
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    That is hilarious!

    FH farted in front of me unintentionally after like a month of dating. After that he just stopped caring. It took me about 6 months of dating, because like you, mine can be pretty gnarly. I have some stomach issues so you never know what youre going to get from mine.

    FH's favorite saying is "let 'er rip tater chip!" whenever my stomach is bothering me. LOL

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  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    We've lived together for about 8 years at this point with only 1 bathroom. There haven't been any secrets in our home for awhile 🤷‍♀️. It's a natural bodily function and just a fact of life.
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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    It looks like we are in the minority! Luckily, I’m not a very gassy person. FH, however, IS! But he always leaves the room before passing gas. I love the idea of being comfortable with one another, but passing gas in the same room or leaving the door open while using the restroom are two things I am definitely on board with keeping a mystery 😆
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  • Amber
    Devoted January 2022
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    I completely resonate with this. I have some super smelly farts (including one 5 minutes before reading this lol) we just let them rip and laugh it off. One vacation we were sharing an Airbnb with another couple; I had some loud farts early in our room early one morning. Later when we’re in the car Husband’s friend was asking him about his loud farts in the morning. Husband was very confused and I was just like “was that like 8am? That was me”. (H was still asleep at this time and I didn’t know the friend was in the living room near our door). This dudes face drops in shock and it’s one of the funniest stories ever and we still joke about it.
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  • Sarah
    Dedicated August 2022
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    Oh we don’t unless we can’t help it. I’ve been in a relationship where we both didn’t care but it kinda of grosses me out when he thought it was super funny. Idk it’s normal I mean I’ve done it and so has he but we don’t make it a point to just let it rip.
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  • Grace
    Super February 2022
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    It has never been a big deal for either of us. My fiancé is definitely the stinky one but our dog is by far the worst of the family. Those are so foul!
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  • Sarah
    Dedicated August 2022
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    I do sound weird saying that I don’t hate on the farting I guess I’m just self conscious lol
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    VIP July 2017
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    We don't worry about it. We both have some stomach issues, so sometimes it's pretty rank, but it's a fact of life and we're adults.

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  • Anna
    Beginner October 2022
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    Hahaha, that's a great story. I have a similar one. A few years ago I went to a college friend's wedding and the night before I went out with a large group of people, some of whom I knew well and others I didn't. At one of the first bars we went to, I let one slip out and it was baaaaad. Everyone in our group was complaining about the smell, and it hung around for so long that we even changed tables to get away from it. If I had only been with my close friends, I probably would've owned up to it, but there was no way I wanted that to be anyone's first impression of me. Anyways, it became a running joke for the rest of the night and weekend, with everyone making up stories about how what could've produced such a horrible smell.

    Like a year after it happened, I was hanging out with one of my good friends who was there and I finally admitted it was me. She was awestruck.

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  • L
    Super August 2023
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    Girl... we let it rip lol I so don't care about holding in anything with my lover. I'll walk into the room while setting it off. I am so un-lady-like in front of him (I am in the outside world) but he loves that I don't have to hide myself with him. The only thing is that we respect each other if it smells that bad and we don't to crop dust each other. Crop Dust - To walk by or be in front of someone while passing gas.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Ha ha! I love your fiancé’s reaction! Naw, we let ‘em rip but we have a “no farting in bed policy.” Pew.
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  • Kate
    Dedicated May 2022
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    My fiancé farts all the time, one time he farted so loudly while we were sleeping it woke me up and scared the heck out of me. I on the other hand have never farted in front him, it just makes me uncomfortable. He says I can, but I won’t too scared.
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  • Jessi
    Super October 2022
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    We normally don't if we can help it, but as the person who has serious gastro issues, I'm the one who has in front of him way more. If I know I'm going to and can catch it I'll leave the room, just because usually those are pretty bad. He's not really one to want to talk about anything like that, so we didn't even start openly talking about like poop until he had his appendix out and I needed to know when he finally was able to after his surgery lol.

    The most recent one I was straddling our dog so he could clip his back toenails and my fiancé literally said "Now no one fart" because that dog has the WORST farts ever and he was like right next to both of our butts, and it made me laugh and one slipped out lol. Thankfully that one didn't smell!

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  • Mcskipper
    Rockstar July 2018
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    Haha I’m sure I’m the stinkier one. We’re pretty open about it but sometimes we do try to shield eachother when something is particularly bad. We usually blame it on some fictitious character, like “don’t go in the living room for a minute I think there’s a monster in there” 😂😇
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  • Sloane
    Super May 2022
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    Wow this same thread was in Weddingbee and now has found it’s way here! 😂😂😂😂
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  • Orianna
    Devoted December 2022
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    I've never been particularly gassy, but holy mother is my fiancé. To the point where I have nicknamed him "the fartiest man alive" (a title he embraces and finds hilarious). We're in a weird situation where I have no idea if they are smelly (he says they are) as I had covid back in January of 2021 (OG strain right before I was vax eligible) and I still don't have the ability to smell 100% (its few and far between when things actually come through). He says its the one good thing about not having my sense of smell back yet is that he can fart without bombing me out.

    For a long time he would hold it till he left the room (or if we were at my apartment just held it in general). Once we started living together, all bets were off. It's his house, my house, our house and we should both be comfortable in our space. Similarly, he has asked me recently if I'm holding them in (I'm not) because he was concerned I wasn't being comfortable.

    Life is life, farts (and other body functions) happen. If you can't be comfortable around your (future) spouse, who can you be?

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  • Anna
    Beginner October 2022
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    Sleeping is one thing that concerns me since I can't control what gets out and therefore can't control how polite or mean I'm being to him. He's never complained about it but I try to sleep with my butt facing out of the bed to be safe. Smiley laugh

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
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    Oh, we’re talking about intentional bed farts. Those are prohibited in our house. 😆 Sleep farting isn’t really controllable.


    It’s funny. I think he would intentionally fart in bed until I started to. Don’t dish it if you can’t deal with it! So then it became a two-way rule. Ha ha ha. 😂
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  • Anna
    Beginner October 2022
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    That's another joke that fiancé made after the window-opening incident the other night - "losing my sense of smell due to Covid sounds pretty good right now." As you can tell, he's a real comedian.

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