Parents might be splitting up

I would take this time to focus on your family and to be there for both of your parents. Your wedding is almost 2 years away, it can wait.

I’m sorry you’re going through this but I see you have a couple of years before you get married. A lot can happen between now and then so just give it some time and see what they decide to do. Don’t jump to any conclusions just yet. Stay positive.

View Quoted Comment Agree with this, but also. My stepdad and mom are split but I am still treating him like he’s still my stepdad (boutonnière, Name in the program, reserved seating) just not next to my mother.

I would talk to your dad about the financial side of hjings. And you can definitely still call her your mom, and I would still invite her to your wedding. Probably put them at different tables though.

Like someone else said, take this time to focus on your family and you and worry about the financial aspect of your wedding.

This happened to my mom. She had no relationship with her birth father but was pretty close with her step-father. Unfortunately my grandma and my mom's step-father started having some issues around the time my mom got engaged, I don't know the exact timeline but my mom told me they "pretty much weren't together anymore by the time the wedding came." My mom had both her mom and step-father walk her down the aisle and did the father-daughter dance with her step-father. So I wouldn't assume that your step-mom won't be involved just yet.

Beings that your wedding is a while away, I'd hold off on booking anything for a month or two. Just enjoy being engaged, and make a savings plan. After you give your dad a little time to deal with what's going on, then bring up the financial aspect.

Them splitting does not mean you no longer have her. Just as for brides who's biological parents aren't together, your dad and step-mom should be able to cooperate as adults for your wedding even if they do split. If she's the woman who has been your mom all these years, that's all there is to that, and she can participate in as much or as little of the wedding as YOU desire. As for covering costs, I'd wait until they've got things settled to bring it up since you do have some time, but let them figure out what they need to do for now

Take a breather and be there for your family. You have time to plan and even if they split she can still be your mom and there for you.

I would not assume that your dad will be able to help financially. Divorce can result in additional living expenses. I do not know how long your dad and SM were married, and how acrimonious the divorce may be, I would not assume she wants any involvement with you after the divorce. It will take time to work this out

Put wedding planning on hold until next May. A year is more than enough time to plan a wedding. By then you should know how things stand. Til then, set aside a dedicated account for your wedding, and either work extra hours or part time jobs, saving all of it for your wedding. Depending on how easy or hard things go down with the divorce, your Dad and Stepmom may no longer have spare money. Plan to pay for your own wedding. Even if they promise they will still have it, they may find out as late as a few months before the wedding that they do not have it. It is generally a bad idea to ask WP further out than 9-12 months, or to plan roles for family and friends til then. Just make and set aside money. Easier to do everything once when the stress is gone, than to keep struggling now with uncertainty, and have to redo them in a year.