Parents are stressing me out

My parents are divorced and despise each other. My father made a speech at my engagement party which no one asked for that my mom felt was a dig at her and ever since I haven’t heard the end of it to the point it’s the main thing I think about that day. I have been saying since the engagement that only the MOH and BM would be making speeches at the wedding. Today my father informs me he is supposed to announce to the guests after the ceremony where to go and what to do (I don’t get why this is on the invites). I said no bc I don’t want to deal with my mom and bc it seems odd only times I’ve seen an announcement like that is a funeral. I thought the issue was done but I got home to an email of an article that said the parents of the bride give a welcome speech at the reception. 😪 He says as the host he gives a speech. So here’s my question yes my father gave money for the wedding but I paid for more then half by myself and planned the entire thing which the exception of a few opinion questions asked to the groom, by myself. So is he the host or am I the host? Like I appreciate his help, but I worked my ass off so it should be based on what I want right? This may have been more of a vent then anything. Basically regretting taking the money at this point.