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Johanna
Just Said Yes December 2019

Paper Save The Date and Online rsvp

Johanna, on January 18, 2019 at 1:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

HI Ladies! Smiley smile

I need advice. We have decided to send out Save The Date by mail but will not be sending out formal invitation, as our Save The Date cards will have our website where the guest will be able to get ALL the wedding info, RSVP and choose meal of choice.

How far in advance should I send out my Save The Dates? SHould my cards even say "Save The Dates"? A couple of things to consider: 1) It will be a weekend event in Palm Springs 2)Wedding date is 12/21/19 (weekend before xmas)

Thank you!!!!!

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Latest activity by earias, on January 18, 2019 at 4:45 PM
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I would skip save the dates and just send out invites. Invites are nice reminders if people set aside the save the date or forget. But invites are WAY more important regardless if you have a website.

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  • L
    Dedicated March 2020
    Laura ·
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    I agree with PP. we are skipping save the dates and sending paper invites. I didn’t want to mail anything but enough people told me it’s just easier to send a hard copy invite and skip the save the date. Pass on the date by word of mouth as early as you want to your guests, and definitely include an RSVP link to your website (what we will be doing) on your invite.
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  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
    Kenisha ·
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    Usually STD’s go out 6-8 months before the wedding.

    You may want to send yours out a little earlier.

    Have you considered also including a detail card?
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  • BrandiWeds18
    VIP May 2019
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    Hmm...this is tough. Technically you should only send an invite, because sending a save the date may lead to people thinking they will expect a formal invitation later. Some people don't even go to the website at all unfortunately. I have guests still asking me the date and where it is after i sent Save the Dates months ago. I'd change the save the date to say You're Invited. Make sure to specify each invited guests name on envelopes and tailor the RSVP section for them specifically. For the website make sure you have some language that says to RSVP please visit. That way they know thats where they go to RSVP or you may have many confused people to follow up with. I'd send these 12 weeks prior to you needing your final numbers out since its a holiday and you're not doing save the dates. August/September? Maybe sooner since its so close to the holidays. If most people are coming from out of town you should begin spreading the date by word of mouth if you can. If people RSVP when you send them out you will want to re-confirm their attendance closer to when you need final numbers as people's schedules may have changed

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  • Mcskipper
    Rockstar July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I would rethink this plan. I truly don’t think it will work how you expect it to. If it says “save the date” on it and it comes several months in advance, most people won’t know to rsvp, and if there’s an rsvp date close to when your numbers are due, most will forget. You could change the wording so it doesn’t say save the date and send it much closer to the event, but with it being a holiday wedding , I think the advance notice is good. I’d send a save the date soon, and then a “reminder” invite 8-10 weeks before the wedding
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    A save the date isn’t something you RSVP to. What is your reasoning for not wanting to send out both? If it’s a cost thing I would do a digital save the date.
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
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    Yes or just email everyone the date then do a formal invite and say RSVP at website. I would also leave someone’s number. In case a older person or anyone is having trouble RSVPing.
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  • Maren
    Champion October 2021
    Maren ·
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    Hi Johanna! Welcome to WeddingWire and congrats on your engagement! I agree with FutureMrsD here too, as invites are definitely a must-have and way more important. You could send out your invites and do online RSVP's the same way you were mentioning, prior to the big day? Smiley smile

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  • Johanna
    Just Said Yes December 2019
    Johanna ·
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    Thank you ladies! I will be skipping Save the Dates and will send out formal invitations. Would you say sending them out around April? or maybe June?

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    I wouldn’t sent them out any earlier than 10-12 weeks before the wedding. If you are wanting to send something early to give people a heads up then send cheap save the dates.
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    A "Save the Date" is not in lieu of an invitation. There is nothing for guests to RSVP to and as others said they may not even think they should. If cost is a concern, either do a digital STD or skip them altogether. But you have to actually invite people to your wedding, hence the necessity of sending invitations. I got married 12/23/17 and sent STDs in late February. I then sent invitations in mid-October.

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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    Closing discussion since this is a duplicate post.

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