First things first, I'm loving the wedding planning process even when it drives me to drink sometimes. Haha I needed to vent somewhere and get everything out so I don't just break out into tears. Here's the story:
I am a Colorado bride, but my parents live in South Korea (Air Force family) and my sister/matron of honor lives in Texas (also an Air Force family). My best friend and second matron of honor lives 2 hours from me, but is in dental school and works every day and is recently married to a doctor so their only time together is on weekends. My two bridesmaids are my cousins that live in Michigan and are both in college still. Call me crazy for picking all busy people for my bridal party, but they're the people that mean the most to me so I wouldn't change it for the world. Anyways, I've been trying to plan a time to get together with my best friend so we can talk wedding and I can run things by her and mostly get some help with my bachelorette party. She keeps telling me I shouldn't be the one planning it, but my sister has two kids and has enough on her hands, my two cousins aren't familiar with Colorado, and she is too busy to help either, so hence, I've planned the whole thing and just want to run it by someone to see what they think and get a second opinion. I know life gets crazy busy, I myself have a full-time job as a bridal stylist, am in a Masters program, have a puppy (whose kisses renew my energy), and my FH travels almost every other weekend for work. What pushed me over the edge was the fact I had our tasting planned with our potential caterer on December 1st (only 4 days from when our wedding date would be next year (November 27th, 2020)) so that we could also scope out when sunset will be for our wedding next year as well. Long story short, I invited my best friend to join us, along with her husband, but she left a voicemail saying "we are going to Milwaukee for Thanksgiving and won't get back until the 2nd; you should tell me these things before you plan them." I haven't responded, but I told her 2 weeks ago that I scheduled it, but I think she forgot due to her crazy schedule. I'm definitely not upset that she can't come because I know it's around a holiday, but it pushed me over the edge emotion wise because once again, no one has helped with planning or done anything wedding with me (other than when my mom visited and helped me find my dress in July). My FH has helped with picking the venue, but everything else he either just gives me a thumbs up or thumbs down. My parents where very engaged with my sister's wedding, but the situation was also different because they were stationed in the same states at the time. My best friend was also a bridesmaid at my sister's wedding and help her a ton, but again, she wasn't in dental school at the time. I'm not trying to pull the "it's not fair" card because obvious the situations are very different. It's the fact that none of them seem to even be interested in lending a helping hand or an ear or even ask if there's anything I'm stressed about or how planning is going.
I'm just feeling entirely overwhelmed and alone.
