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Brittany
Savvy March 2020

One kid?

Brittany, on February 20, 2020 at 3:04 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 20
Okay, so, I'm having a kid free wedding. One person wants to bring their 13 year old. (My fiance's half-brother is 16 or 17, I think.) I have known this kiddo since she was born, so I'm okay with it. Do you think other people will take offense and be up in arms?

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Latest activity by Brittany, on March 3, 2020 at 9:16 AM
  • Jai
    VIP May 2020
    Jai ·
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    I dont think they will be. We r also doing kid free wedding and the only kid there will be 13, but he is the groomsman autistic son; which is my FH cousin.
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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated May 2021
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    For our wedding we have just family bringing their kids since most of my FH's cousins have kids.
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  • R
    Expert May 2021
    Rachael ·
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    If you want that person there then do it ! I found most people didn't want to bring their young kids to a wedding and wanted a night out instead . The only kids I'm having are my brothers , no others were invited
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    Technically she's not a kid rather a teenager. The only thing I would just warn the fiance's half-brother about is that she would be the only 13 year old there so to me she would be bored. Now I could see some people may be having an issue with it so just to play things safe why don't you give her a role like an older flower girl or something like that?
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  • Brittany
    Savvy March 2020
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    Well, this kid is rather mature and enjoys Broadway musicals.
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    Ha ha ha too cute. That is good. I think you will be fine. Smiley smile

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  • Brittany
    Savvy March 2020
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    That's the thing, most people are excited for a non-kid wedding because they've never been to one. It's a grownup event.
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  • Brittany
    Savvy March 2020
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    But it's immediate family's small kids that sparked the no kids policy. They're unruly. So, yeah.
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  • Brittany
    Savvy March 2020
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    I'm hoping that it will work out okay! Thanks!
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  • Ashley
    Expert October 2021
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    I dont think so. When it comes down to it, its your day. Thats all that matters.

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  • Jai
    VIP May 2020
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    Np! I think you will be okay!
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  • Chantal
    Expert May 2021
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    I definitely think you will be fine. People understand. And 13 years old is at least in the teenager stage, so not exactly a "kid." Smiley smile

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    Are there other guests with kids around his age? If you have other guests with 13 year old kids then this may offend them, but if your other guests have kids like 6 years old or something then I think they'd understand the difference between that and a 13 year old. We also had a "kid free" wedding but my 13 and 15 year old cousins attended. Those same cousins have siblings ages 5 and 7. Even that family understood that their 13 and 15 year old kids were invited but it was just not an appropriate setting for their young children. It was more a compliment like "we generally have a kid free wedding but your 13 and 15 year olds behave like young adults "

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  • Kathryn
    Beginner October 2020
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    I don't think it should be an issue unless they are a very immature 13 year old. In reality you have the right to define what you consider a kid. You can also blame the venue. What do they consider a child?

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  • Alyssa
    Super December 2021
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    The one kid will be my FH's daughter. Other than that we are having a kidfree wedding. The babysitter will have her in bed by 830. If anyone has a problem with that, they can talk to the complaint department.

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  • M
    Just Said Yes June 2021
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    For our weeding no kids allow

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
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    I feel like teenagers aren't exactly kids. 13 year olds are pretty independent and don't need constant supervision, so if you want a teen or two at your wedding who are important to you, I think that's fine and would still consider it a kid free wedding.

    We are having a "no children" wedding but my cousin's 16 yo son is invited. He's like 6'2" so my only concern is that he isn't served alcohol.

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    Other people are your guests. Who you choose to invite is not something they get to vote on as fair or unfair. If you make an exception, first of all, don't tell people " we are inviting no children ." Say, we have invited a very few, very close teens or kids. So no one can throw your rule back at you. If they question you further, the answer is, we as hosts, decided who we wished to invite. ( Subject closed ). Anyone with poor enough manners to grouse about fair, unfair, etc., should be cut off. We are not a court. We need not make rulings on what is fair. This is our wedding/ party, and we decided who to invite. No discussion. All private party decisions are based on who you the hosts feel closest to, and want with you on this day, or for any party. And nobody, not your parents, not other parents, should be so presumptuous that they decide they can remake your decisions. If they don't like the vegetables you are serving, they don't eat them, and don't moan and complain about it. If they don't like your choices for the guest list, they can themselves decline to attend. Your wedding is the beginning. Whether it is your own dinner parties, or children's birthdays or sleepovers, now that you have started your own family of 2, you as hosts decide. Get used to it, and feel comfortable doing it.
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  • Angie
    Dedicated June 2021
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    It's your wedding, invite who you want! Our wedding is kid free except for my only niece. If anyone has a problem with it, too bad!

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  • Brittany
    Savvy March 2020
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    Thank you everyone for the advice and support! I appreciate y'all!
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