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Melinda
Expert March 2022

Nwr- Work Advice Needed asap

Melinda, on February 24, 2022 at 1:56 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 12

Can I just say thank you to all who have been a sounding board to me lately? I already posted this week about my difficult parents.. now something else has dropped in my lap.


FH and I are from Arizona. In October 2020 he went from full time active duty military to part time to take a contract in California where we are currently living. I went from a very lucrative job I adored managing dental practices to a glorified dental receptionist at an office that can only be described as a retirement home. However I knew it wasn't forever and that this would really help his career goals.

We are getting married 03/12/22. I am taking of from 03/08-03/28 for the wedding and honeymoon. We are planning on moving back to Arizona on 04/15 but have not formally announced this as it isnt set in stone until his contract finalizes with the potential new employer.

I get pulled into my doctors office yesterday evening before leaving for the day being told that he sold his practice effective 03/01/2022. I have a meeting today with the new doctor to see if he essentially wants to keep me and my coworker or not.

If I agree to take this job I would be working with him from 03/28-04/15. I doubt he will take me on if I tell him. We are not financially able to just have me not return back to work after the honeymoon.

I literally don't know what to do at this point. Do I lie and accept a job knowing I will be quitting after two weeks?


We also live in a very small town with zero temp agencies.

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Latest activity by Jessi, on February 25, 2022 at 8:30 AM
  • J
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    So if your FHs contract isn't final, I wouldn't bring it up. What if it falls through and you end up staying, you know? If it is final that you will be leaving on 4/15, then you should be upfront about it. You can tell them that although you are leaving, you will happily help train and transition whoever they hire to take on your role.

    Otherwise I'd look at doing uber/doordash/etc for those few weeks to just make ends meet.

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  • Melinda
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    We live in a VERY small town so uber, etc is not an option. Literally there is just a base and a handful of businesses here and they can't get on base.

    I already have my old job back in Arizona so will be leaving to start there even without his final contract on 04/15.

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  • Jessi
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    Is there any way that the current doctor would have told him already that you won't be there long? I agree that possibly telling them that you can help train someone might make it worth keeping you for those couple of weeks.

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    I wouldn't see why he would keep you if you plan to be at the company for less than a month.

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  • Melinda
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    No my current doctor has no idea we are moving. I was going to discuss it with him in another week or so.

    I wouldnt be valuable as a trainer as I would be his third front office person since he is already bringing two.

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  • Melinda
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    Exactly- If I knew that my employee wasn't staying I would never hire them.

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  • Jessi
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    I mean it's not exactly nice, but sometimes we need to do what we need to and you could always just tell him later on that you guys have been urgently moved. If you can't come up with a form of employment for those 2 weeks and being unemployed isn't an option then I say do what you have to. That is, as long as you're not hoping to go back or use them as a serious reference in the future.

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  • Melinda
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    Yeah, unfortunately I think it is what I am going to have to do. Just sucks morally. I would not use them as a reference or even put them on my resume as I am already returning to my old position in April.

    Thanks for the advice.

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  • Candace
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    What happens if the new doctor decides he doesn't want to keep you, regardless of the reason? 3/1 is in just a few days. That's hardly enough time to make other employment arrangements. Would the current doctor provide severance pay for a proper lay-off? If not, I would not tell the new doctor anything. No one can blame you. It's not your fault you've been out in this position.
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  • K
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    This is not a moral issue! In most states, employment is at will, which usually protects employers but in this situation really protects you IF hired and wedding leave is granted. Don’t say a word until you return from your honeymoon.
    Honestly, though, I wouldn’t bank on the new doctor, if he hires you, letting you take off three weeks a week after he owns the practice. This situation might be made for you in a variety of ways, and I’d plan on all possibilities!
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  • Melinda
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    Just to update everyone. Just met with the guy. During an hour long lunch he talked about himself the whole time. In the beginning I tried to ask a question or two and was told " all that matters is we need you" and did not answer directly any questions about hours, pay, etc.

    It was the strangest hour of my life and I do not feel bad quitting after two weeks as I don't know that if we weren't moving that I could stay working with this man.

    Thank you everyone for your help during this time.

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  • Jessi
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    Thanks for the update, I was just wondering how everything turned out. As weird as all of that sounds, I'm glad it worked out that you still have some sort of job when you need it. Hopefully those two weeks go as quickly and painlessly as possible.

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