nwr - I’m a light sleeper and my husband’s tossing and turning is so loud :(

Hi Gen! Sorry you aren't getting good sleep. I was actually searching through prime deals this morning and saw a sleeping mask/ear muff kind of thing that played music or sound. It looked more comfortable than ear plugs.

Also, Sharper Image has a total sleep mask system.

https://www.hibermate.com/

https://thebettersleepproject.com/ear-plugs-and-eyemasks-sleep-better/

I am also a light sleeper! FH was away for 3 months for work training and now I'm not used to sleeping next to him! He sleeps with his mouth open and it drives me nuts lol. I used to be fine with it so I think I just have to re-learn to be used to it again. I hate ear plugs and sleep masks so that's all I can do is hope that I get used to it.

I don't have any advice but I'm glad I'm not the only one experiencing this hahaha. We've lived together for 6 years and FH slept on the couch last night after a yelling match about him snoring and me shaking him to get him to stop snoring!

It comes and goes in waves. I think he has allergies or something, he doesn't think so. He claims he's "not even asleep" when hes over there sawing logs.....Lord only knows how to solve things.

I've tried to buy him all the pillows that say "this will stop snoring!" they don't work. Maybe one day I'll just be a harder sleeper.

Girl I am in the SAME EXACT POSITION as you (plus add FH awful snoring on top of this.)

We have been basically living together for 2 years now and I still havnt quite figured it out but here are a few things I do.

1) I used to use earplugs but the same thing happened to me, they just hurt so bad so I stopped using them and just put my pillow on-top of my head instead (I don't sleep with a pillow under my head anyway due to back issues but I will fold a small blanket and put that under my head so its blocking the noise from both sides)

2) I use a white noise machine app on my phone so I can put it under my pillow right next to my head so its as loud as I need to successfully drown out some of the noise

3) Melatonin is my best friend.. I can't sleep without it anymore it just puts me in such a deep sleep (I find that at about 3 am I will wake-up from him and have a hard time falling back asleep but then ill use my noise machine and just count sheep till i fall back asleep lol)

4) go to bed before him. I usually try to start falling asleep 15-20 mins before FH so when he does start snoring and moving I'm already asleep and the melatonin usually makes me sleep so hard i dont even notice him.

I do end up on the couch a good portion of the time because I just can't take it anymore and have to leave but I'm slowly getting better. I hate it and hate not waking up next to him but for your personal health you just need to get good sleep. Don't beat yourself up over it, its not your fault and it will get better over time

Maybe try takeing melatonin b4 bed to put u into a heavier sleep?

I had/ have the same problem with my husband. Before we got married, I kept telling him that his snoring was affecting my sleep. After a little bit of nagging and support he got a sleep test and has mild sleep apnea. He wears a mask. The sound of the air and his mouth breathing still has me wearing ear plugs, but we both sleep better. He even admits he sleeps better with the mask. I also know that nights he drinks and eats fast food late, I might be sleeping in the other room because he is so out of it, he does not hear me when he is dead asleep and I am asking him to put on his mask. We are also both sheet hogs, so we each have our own queen size blankets we can cocoon in.

You might get used to it over time. I know its been more than a year, but its possible that you never adjusted to the noisy situation because of all the other pieces you added in to try to hide the noise. So maybe you would get used to white noise machine, separate mattresses, etc without ear plugs if you just do it for a while? I'm not sure though.

I've only tried melatonin once and it gave me awfully messed up dreams. I've mentioned that to some other people who have said they have weird dreams when they take melatonin too.